Ok..my boyfriend and I broke up last night. We went out for almost 3 months and I'm taking it kind of hard. It was a mutual separation and we've decided to talk in 2 weeks and see what happens. As in get back together or just stay friends. But I'm pretty torn up about it. I don't know what to do. It's like I love him..but I'm not in love with him. And it's just so hard. Not to mention that I think I might like another guy..and I think he might be interested in me. But I'm not even going to think about him until I get this sorted out. Any advice is much appreciated.
2007-03-23 11:39:27 · 15 answers · asked by Lucie<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We broke up because we both felt that it wasn't working as well as we wanted it to. We didn't get to spend much time together and we rushed things a bit too. We weren't as good friends as I would've liked us to be before we started going out. And I was starting to get bored and I found myself flirting with other guys. And then this other guy who I like is an old crush that I thought I was over. But I guess I was wrong about that.
2007-03-23 12:28:29 · update #1
I don't know for sure if this other guy likes me. I just think he might.
2007-03-24 04:45:12 · update #2
You can love someone but still not be in love with them like parents or friends.
You may see your ex as a very close friend (congrats if that is the case). The break up was mutual so there was little pain between the both of you.
The feeling you are going through is normal and all will work out. Your ex will see you as a close friend as you will see him in the same light.
I would give it 2 weeks to get over the annoying feeling and then move on.
Good luck
2007-03-23 11:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the situation as I speak now. But speaking from my perspective, love is sometimes hard to explain. When you care about someone alot it takes break ups to show just how much you did care. But if you two want to keep it as it is then in order to do that, you will have to split completely. That means no contact what so ever, because friendships never work out after you've been in a relationship with someone. Friendships could work out if it was more mutual and the both of you were really serious about keeping it that way. But if one person is more into the relationship and the other is not, then thats not going to work out as just being friends. There can be no phone calls, text messaging, emails, or even pictures to bring him in your thoughts. But if you two want to work things out then talk to him about it. Then you two should come in to an agreement on what you to both can do to contribute to making the relationship work out. Hope that helps
2007-03-23 12:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by girliegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl..You are in a tough situation here and all I can do is give you a bit of been-there-done-that advice. DONT talk to him untill that two weeks. Now I dont mean shun him, a nice simple hello is ok. But dont call or anything. Give him and you two weeks to think. The other guy could be a barriar to your relationship with your ex. If your not sure of your feelings this 2 week seperation will be good for you. Give it time and it will all sort itself out.
2007-03-23 11:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lea S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww sorry you guys broke up...i know how you feel...well for the next couple weeks hang with your friends a lot!...Trust me when you stay busy it helps sooo much and you end up not thinking about him that much,.,.it will give you time to clear your mind and then you guys can make the decsion in a couple weeks! Good Luck!
2007-03-23 11:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by *Mariah* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you broke up, BTW?
2weeks, would be good enough to make the two of you realize that you really both in love to each other or otherwise.. that feeling of some kind of holding back... try not to make any contacts to him on that whole 2weeks... somehow, both of you will realize that you need each other, that you are actually happy and in love with him.. with that 2weeks you will just realize that you miss him... but if none of these things happened, then you had fall out of him already...
2007-03-23 12:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by jami... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can sympathise with you honey as i have been in this situation before but remember- write down a list of pros and cons of each person you like. then, you will be able you weigh up who you think is better. also, you could try and imagine certain scenarios where you are with each of the guys and think who would do better and who is most suited to you. i hoped that helped doll and im sure it will work itself out in the end! x
2007-03-23 11:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by bl0w_f1sh_bl0w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should leave it for a while with both lads and see how you feel in a few weeks if you still have strong feelings for your ex then give that another shot, but if you feel you want to move on and you really like this someone else then give it a go with him.
2007-03-24 05:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by amy w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about the same thing happened to me like 3 weeks ago.. except he totally ignored me after we broke up.... but i felt the same way.. i wasn't sure whether to hate him because he ignored me and flirted with my best friend, but i couldn't because i thought i still loved him.. but then i noticed it wasn't him i missed, it wasn't him i needed, i wasn't him i wanted.. i was just so used to loving him.. it was like a habit. and maybe i missed being held and kissed but i never missed him. maybe you do still like him, but first you should try and go on a date with that other guy who likes you. because then you will see if its really your ex you miss, or if its just the relationship you miss.
2007-03-23 12:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends why you broke up? and i think that you shouldnt get back together wit him because ur not in love with him i mean u might love him but it could just be like brother love
2007-03-23 11:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by i love you <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you'll get over it i no i did and during those 2 weeks hes just lookng for another girl and he'll tell u hes not interested in you. hes not the person for you.ive gone through it all. im only 12!
2007-03-23 11:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by holly _lawton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋