I just got out of a long relationship, 4 years and three months, she divorced me but still lives with me, she tells me that I am a perfect friend and loves sex benefits but we just can't be married to each other!
She began to date others a day before the filing of the divorce but everytime she would come back home she would have sex with me!!
I stopped the sex thing about three months ago since it was hurting my feelings!!
For the past month this girl at work has been sending weird signals and I like her a lot! I asked her out and she declined so I began to go out and decided maybe some time alone and clubbing would be best, but now she is again sending signals and don't know if to wait and see what happens or to move on and just have fun!!
I really like her and know that it would be a bit serious with her because she has kids. I don't want the kids to get hurt but I really like her, besides the physical attraction I also like that she is very smart!!
Please help!!
2007-03-23 11:33:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
id rather be in relationship b/c im not into casual sex. thats probably why your ex goes on dates but chooses to have sex with you b/c she doesn't really know those men and it wouldn't be safe to start a sexual relationship with them. but she knows you so when she feels the need she can just have sex with you.
i think you should take a break from the serious dating thing, to give youself time to work on you. its always a good idea to breath between relationships. so i wouldn't try to start something with the lady at work.
but i would also let her make the next move, maybe shes going through something in her life where she doesn't know if she should start a relationship with you, thats why she gives you mix feelings.
im sorry your relationship with your ex didn't work, but maybe it was for the better. you should really be with someone who knows what they want in life and in a relationship. don't rush into something new, just let things flow and they will fall in place when they are ready. just take this time to take care of you.
2007-03-23 11:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal preference is to be in a relationship. I love the closeness and comfort that comes with committing yourself to someone you care about. However, in your case, I would actually take being single. I think you need to take time and sort out your feelings. Have you completely resolved things with your ex? Until then I would not consider trying to jump into another relationship. As far as her giving signals, if she declined the first time, then wait until she makes a move. Don't bank on what you consider giving signals because sometimes they can be misread. Although there is nothing wrong with pursuing a relationship with someone with kids, keep in mind that this should be given some serious thought as I'm sure that they are her first priority.
2007-03-23 11:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your ex. Start out slow You don't have to be in a relationship to have a friend. If I were you I would wait a while a enjoy your freedom life until you know and feel you are ready to date again. Never date anyone on the rebound. But first start out by not having anything to do with your ex. Don't give yourself to her anymore. You deserve a decent life with a great woman. Best of luck to you for the future!!
2007-03-23 11:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The order i might positioned them in is the abode with the Jewish gay couple first, the only atheist woman 2d and the Christian family participants third. faith would not element INTO MY determination. the climate that do are: a million) The gay men have been in a marvelous courting for 15 years, are energetic of their community the two interior the non secular and secular aspects. additionally one in each of the two one in each of them is a math instructor who may be waiting to help her together with her analyze as she gets older. additionally the baby might have own area that she does no longer have with the 1st couple. 2) The atheist doctoral candidate may be a marvelous function-style in that she might furnish an occasion to the baby of a woman who's working to realize her objectives and stay as much as her finished ability. the baby might have own area. the main important draw back to this candidate IMO is the demands that are located on the time of somebody engaged on her doctorate. there is not any point out of somebody who ought to help her interior the care of the baby while educational demands are located on her time. The final abode, besides the actuality that it incredibly is a house which additionally has stable community ties because of the fact of favourite church attendance, would not furnish for privateness for the baby. i might additionally be annoying that the different toddlers might in all risk cope together with her poorly because of the fact she became no longer "extremely" area of the family participants. Racist perspectives do no longer stay away from a family participants from being loving, being concerned and nurturing mum and dad, besides the actuality that to my way of questioning it may be a reason for subject. All 3 households/applicants do appear like they have the financial ability to furnish for the baby's concern-loose desires. although, the 1st 2 I communicate (the gay couple and the only woman) even have supplies they'd additionally use to help this baby no rely if it incredibly is desperate later that she has any specific abilities to be nurtured or if scientific themes would desire to stand up at a later date. i does no longer be as gentle with that being the case with the heterosexual couple.
2016-10-01 09:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun, and be yourself. You already made the first move, and I think she should be the one now that asks you out.
2007-03-23 11:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Single, duh. What would I possibly sacrifice my independence for? No matter how great the guy is, he wouldn't be worth it.
2007-03-23 15:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋