we have our house and been living together for almost 4 years and we havent bothered with a wedding gift list as we have all we need for the house.
2007-03-23 11:28:18 · 47 answers · asked by HARD AS NAILS MAC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have a friend or relative spread the word. It worked for us! You will still get some gifts though.
2007-03-23 11:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 3⤊ 7⤋
I am in the same position as you are, and we have put down on a small card that will be sent out with invitations that we will not be sending a gift list but instead would prefer any cash donations. A member of our bridal party died last year suddenly from cancer and we are giving half of what we receive to a cancer charity in her memory so she is still part of the day.
Make it clear what you plan to do with the money so people know what they are contributing for. After all I would prefer to give money to a couple who have everything but need money to help them start a family etc.
Some people prefer to give money as they give what they can afford or want, there is nothing worse than going to get something from the gift list and finding out that there is nothing you can afford left on it. After all in lots of cultures the only gifts they accept is money.
Hope this help and congratulations! xxx
2007-03-23 23:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by indyana.saqqara 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to anyone who says it's not tacky to ask- you should get what you want- you are missing the point! You don't have a wedding to see "how much stuff we can get" or "how much money we can get"... you get married nd have a wedding to share time etc etc with your family. Nobody is required to bring you a gift of any sort- I don't understand how so many of you posting on here just assume and expect that you are entitled to gifts and the gifts being exactly what you want.
2007-03-23 14:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT PUT IT ON ANY INVITATIONS. This information should be given out ONLY by your parents or members of the bridal party, and ONLY if they are asked by your guests. Since you haven't set up a wedding registry, people will most likely ask around to find out what to give you (gifts are customary, but not mandatory), since they will probably want to give you something even though there's no registry. But by no means put this in writing or offer the information to people who haven't asked -- it makes it seem as though you are only including these people in your celebration in order to get money from them.
2007-03-23 12:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you had everything you needed then you wouldn't need money :) Seriously though, you can register for gifts that aren't normal wedding gifts. Register for some things that you could use for different hobbies you're interested in, sporting equipment, entertainment items, or exercise equipment. If you are wanting the money for a specific expense, just let the guest know that if they ask you what you want or where you're registered at. Suggest a store you would like a gift card to if they insist on a gift and you really can't think of anything to register for. I don't think it's wrong to tell people you haven't registered anywhere since you've had a home together for a while and that if they would like to gift you something, you are saving up for _____. I think they would be fine with that. Good luck!
2007-03-23 11:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by jennyss 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
It all still boils down to the fact that when it comes to gifts, the giver of the gift will decide what he or she wants to give you, if they want your opinion they would ask you.
Just thank God for your wedding.
Wedding gifts are good, don't use your wedding to solve your financial problems.
If you work hard and commit your way into God's hands, you will eventually become financially secure.
Don't give yourself a reason not to be happy on your wedding day, just enjoy the day. Anything can happen.
2007-03-23 13:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Pink_Zirconia!!! 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
we were in the same situation but we asked for vouchers instead. from various different places that way we didnt offend. You can set up in big stores vouchers instead of gift lists and your guests can add to it. this means you dont know how much someone is giving. You can also do it at travel agents that way your honeymoon and travel money is paid. Not offending guests
2007-03-25 15:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what my sis printed on her invites:
The only presents we require is your presence, BUT if you did wish to buy anything we would appreciate money so that we can put it towards spending money for our honeymoon in Dubai. Thanks
I do not think it's rude or tacky asking for money. What is the point of ending up with 54 toasters , 18 kettles and 90 vases you will never use!!!!!
2007-03-23 23:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your guests surely know about you two living in sin for 4 years, no? And now he wants to make an honest woman out of her, as indeed he should. Your wish is your guests comand. So just tell them, you want money instead of things you already have. Simple as that. Honesty is the best policy here too!!!! Have a nice wedding!!
2007-03-23 16:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by unanski 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You can't. People are invited to your wedding because you want them there not becuase you want a gift, so by telling people not only that you expect a gift, but that you want money would be tacky. Instead, let your parents spread the word, people will ask where your registered and they can tell people then.
2007-03-23 11:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Janice O 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
wedding list we do not have a weeding list as we have every thing we need for the home. but we would be grateful for any small contributions so we could use it to go towards having a honey moon
2007-03-24 10:17:43 · answer #11 · answered by Ayshea J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋