Here's the deal, I've been playin it single and footloose for a while, meetin many different gals to talk to and hang out with. Now I seem to be fallin for 3 of em, one of em happens to be an ex that I never lost my feelins for, the other two each have their own great qualities. My question is what should I do? keep bein friends with all 3, or pick one?
2007-03-23 11:19:28 · 2 answers · asked by pickup_man7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can feel really confusing when you are attracted to more than one person, and want to keep everyone - including yourself, happy. My guess is that the three girls you've mentioned each have feelings for you as well, so you're worried about hurting them, as well as losing that 'feel-good' connection you have if you choose one over the others.
I think you're thinking about this in the wrong way. Unless there is some reason why you can't be friends with all of them (and there may be - I don't know the whole situation), I think you should do just that. Friendships are valuable without the "romance" factor! And should you decide you want more from one of the three, then you're going to gain a deeper relationship with that girl, and still have two great friends!
Good luck!
2007-03-23 11:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sunni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having trouble because you have framed the situation incorrectly. You think that if you choose one you lose the other two. When really you aren't losing anything...you are gaining a deeper relationship with one of them.
Also, be honest with yourself and acknowledge that eventually you are going to choose one anyway, because you won't leave all three dangling indefinitely. Pick the one you like the best and go for it without fear or regret...as long as that one isn't my girlfriend.
2007-03-23 18:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by outlaw_tattoo_biker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋