my brother has mental disabilities (ADD is one of them) and he is extremely abusive. He'll be 19 in july and hes almost 300 pounds. im 14 and i am a little over 100... he punches me.. and hits me. my parents are making him move out soon but he keeps following me and screaming at me. the other day he almost broke my arm.my parents wont let me have friends over untill hes gone...when we argue i dis-engage myself from the situation but he follows me.. and i get extremely scared. how can i get away him or if you have any advice in general.. he wont listen.. so if any of you say that i should talk to him. we've tried. he wont listen to anyone anymore. the only we can do is wait untill an apartment opens up. so any advice? please?
2007-03-23 11:15:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have recently requested a lock on my door. but my parents said... it would be a waste of time cause he's moving out soon.. and they said it's a fire hazard. im 14 i think i know how to unlock a door! and my parents know about the situation.. i've told them many times. but they dont get home untill around 8 everynight.
2007-03-23 11:28:24 · update #1
Listen, your parents are trying to do the right thing by separating the two of you, but they may be too late. If he is causing you physical harm he needs to be removed right now. You need to tell your parents that you are frightened for your own safety. Unfortunately if you call child welfare because he is over 18, they will remove you from the home and not him and you will be in state custody. You don't want to be there. If you have grandparents or an Aunt or Uncle you can stay with until he is gone, I would highly recommend doing that. If he gets violent with you, you call 911 and have the police take him away. You will get at least a couple of days away from him. Whatever the case, do not let yourself get seriously injured because your parents don't want to hurt their son.
2007-03-23 11:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is really that abusive, then you have every right to contact the police and press charges. ADD or not he is an adult, you are a child. Avoid the situation completely if you can. Take a look at what actions you may be doing that set him off, it may be something you could easily change. Talk to your parents and other family members. Let it be known to everybody.
2007-03-23 11:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cuirassier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when he moves out get a restrain order on him and have him stay away from you when you do that if he has that he can not come near you if your parents want that. he can actually be arested for demestic vilance if he does that have him move to like a apartment that is cheap like a stdio or somthing like that and or have him arrested for demstic vilance i under stand what you are going throw my brother was the same way a long time ago and he was sent to a boys cap and now he is so much better but your brother is 19 i am not shure what you can do on that but like i said have a restaing order put on him and if ever comes near you he can be arested i am sorry on saying that
2007-03-23 11:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep pushing for the lock though i don't know if it will help. it sounds like he's the kind if guy that would just kick it down if he wants. i suggest , the next time he touches you,or even if he scares you to the point that you think he might, call the police.i know you may be worried about doing that but he's can seriously hurt you. maybe you could stay with relatives til he moves out. best of luck to you.
2007-03-23 12:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, i do no longer think of a marvelous type of persons who're abusive are evil. the way a number of them advance up watching family participants abuse one yet another they think of that's the only way. some are very fortunate they advance up with abuse yet they wreck the cycle like I did. a marvelous type of persons who've been abused won't abuse every physique no rely what. ok possibly some people could be evil. I mean in the event that they comprehend what correct and incorrect is and that they % to be incorrect and harm different persons and not experience undesirable approximately it then possibly sure. this question is a huge question. i certainly prefer i ought to declare it greater advantageous then I did. yet you comprehend i do no longer evaluate my mum and dad who abused one yet another and me evil. I only think of they're stupid. sorry desire it incredibly is sensible God Bless
2016-10-01 09:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by durrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs help by the sound of it and fast! If he doesn't get help by someone you could end up seriously hurt and with his disability and all deep down I don't think he means to hurt you. I think he loves you deep down inside he just has problems that need to be helped or fixed by a doctor or some proffessional or experienced person.
I'm sorry about what happens. I hope it gets better soon.
2007-03-23 11:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Gumby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have some advise. Call the police and report his 300lb self. He is 18 and responsible for his actions. Maybe a little jail time and finding out that people won't put up with anymore will help.
2007-03-23 11:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by jimmer256 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok your going to need some help from adults for start. Go to a teacher since your parents are not helping may be even the police (it may sound harsh and scary but you brother really needs mental care) talk to them about you problem and they may be able to get help for him and you. second, try to get out of the house go somewhere with friends and dont tell him stay far away from him. if you need more help and he keeps hurting you go to the police or doctor.
hope you get better and hope this helped!
2007-03-23 11:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by em0world 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your parents aren't doing enough. If you aren't safe in your own home, then they need to take emergency action--they need to get him or you out NOW. There are all kinds of social services, or they should have you stay with another family member, such as an aunt or grandparent.
You need to tell your school counselor, who will be able to help with this situation.
2007-03-23 11:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by ravenhairedmaid 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a tazer gun and tazer him in the nuts, that will teach his ***. Besides ADD is not an excuse to be hitting u, thats only attention defeicit. He needs to get the hell out
u might wanna consider getting some pepper spray, i know this sounds drastic but hopefully it will only take one time so he can leave u alone
2007-03-23 11:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋