Family against a relationship?

Question

Would you stay with a partner your family didn't like or would you listen to their opinion and ditch them?

Answer 1

This is really to vague to answer: Are the family's objections valid, such as, is he abusive? Unemployed when he could get a job? Alcoholic? These kinds of reasons would mean you should listen to your family.

If they object because of skin color, or something like that, then do what you want if you're over 18.

Answer 2

From past experience i would listen to my heart! If you really like someone why shouldn't you be happy. If your family don't like them, unless there is a valid reason they should respect your decision to be with he/she and keep opinions to themselves. You don't say how long you have been with your partner, but if you ditch them because of other peoples opinions, you'll always end up sad and alone. Its a fact of life that family will always pick fault with a partner, why are there so many in law jokes! At the end of the day stay true to yourself and if you like/love your partner stick with it. Good luck, i'm sure they'll come round in the end but if not you'll be ok.

Answer 3

Seriously, I would listen to what they say and take a very careful look to see if it is true. Now if they were saying that this guy is black and you're white or he's Chinese and you're Mexican or things along those lines I'd brush it off and keep the relationship.

But if they're saying he's not treating you well. Or that he's hiding something. Or he's rude to them. That kind of complaint I would look at very closely. If the complaints turn out not to be true you know you need to set the family straight and stay with your partner.

But if the complaints turn out to be true you need get out and get out fast. Or at least take steps to take care of yourself and not get seriously involved until you see a real effort to change.

Sometimes family will complain for stupid reasons but a lot of times they are a step outside the relationship and can see things that you might not.

Answer 4

This is a difficult one. I have always firmly thought that if your friends don't like your partner or vice versa, you shouldn't really be with them. People tend to forget that thier friends are thier friends for a very good reason, because they have something in common or a similar view or approach to the world. If your partner doesn't like them, or vice versa, there is seriously something that needs looking at.

However, not necessarily so with family, unless you get on with them very well. If you are convinced 100% that your family members would be your close friends anyway if you were not related and met, then yes, listen to them. But blook relation alone doesn't give them any automatic right.

You are a very pretty Londoner. Will you invite me round for tea?

Answer 5

You stay with the partner, stick up for them, then your realise he's a **** and your family was right all along!

Listen to what people say, even as you follow your heart but don't burn your bridges

Answer 6

It would depend on the reason why my family did not like a partner. If the reason is something that I need to think about then maybe I would reconsider the relationship. (One of you wants kids, one doesn't. One wants to move out of state. etc.)

If it was just something silly like "he looks funny" and the partner treated me well then I would have to stick with my own instincts.

Answer 7

it depends on who is in the wrong if your family are a bunch of scumbags and you know it and the person girl/boy is were the grass is greener on the other side then go for it may be your only chance of having a better life then you can wave them goodbye however you could end up on your own but all risks are worth taking to have a good life.

Answer 8

put it this way, i stuck with the misses and told my family where to go, AND then her mum started to get jealous that i was closer to my gf than her so she made the missus choose, we have been together now for 5 and a half years with a lovely baby gurl and we are looking to move away soon.we couldnt be happier and the future looks so much brighter without all the petty squables that come with family members not getting their way.
its your life and your decision to be with someone, no-one elses, rock on

Answer 9

My family always hated the men that go into a relationship with one of our family members. Just go with your instinct if you really like him and you feel he is there for you then stay with him your family has to eventually take him in if they love you.

Answer 10

You need to weigh all of the issues. Now you need to also be sensible, and want the best for yourself. That is what your family is thinking about, they just do not want you to get hurt.