Okay I've known this guy for 11 years.. (technically all my life) And all I can think about is him. I check my Myspace like every 5 minutes to see if he's online.
I get nervous around him, and my heart beats faster when I see him, or even think about him. One of my friends like him... and now its starting to make me bad.. cuz I think he likes her to. And now its startin to kill me. I even thought about killing myself it hurt me so bad. We understand eachother, we talk almost everyday, he said he loved me... but as a sister.
I love him as a brother yeah.. but also more than a brother. And he's gunna ask out my friend this upcoming monday.. and I dont think I'll be able to handle it.
Am I in love?
Should I be mad at my friend for this?
She said I could have him, but I said no, did I do the right thing?
Should I be mad at him?
WHAT DO I DO MONDAY??
Im about to cry.. :-(
2007-03-23 11:09:28 · 17 answers · asked by J.D. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no no peoples IM NOT 11....
gawsh....
its just felt like my whole life... Im 15...
gawsh
2007-03-23 11:21:04 · update #1
It's called a crush. You'll get over it in no time
2007-03-23 11:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by The Real McCoy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How bout the both of you not let this guy intrude on your friendship? If one will resent the other, it's not worth it. You're better off admiring him from afar and til the next cutie comes along. Sweetheart, AINT NO BOY WORTH DYING OVER! It is never the end just because some BOY wont like you back. You have the rest of your life to live and believe me, it will be quite a journey. But in the end you learn things about yourself. Dating is a process and every frog you kiss wont turn into a prince. Good Luck to you Sweety. I'm 31 and I have been in your shoes so this come from experience. Leave the boy out of it! Friends first!
2007-03-23 18:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on darlin'. You're how old, 12? 13? The fluttery heart and nervousness are because you have a crush on this guy (also because your hormones are pumping at, like, 90 million MPH.)
You are not in love - you are learning how to be in love. That isn't to say it's not painful - because it can be. It's exhilarating and painful and scary and fun all at the same time. The emotions you are feeling are perfectly normal.
You'll probably go through this a few times before you fall in love for real, and when you do, it won't make you a nervous wreck. You'll be happy and calm and confident knowing that your heart is in good hands.
No man is worth killing oneself over, and the one who truly loves you will never make you feel that you have to make that sort of sacrifice. No friend is worth losing over a man. Guys come and go - friends are with you for a llot longer.
Try to realize that this is just a normal part of growing up, and don't rush it. It's ok to crush on a guy without being in love; it's ok to enjoy being with someone without having sex with them; it's ok to feel jealous or lousy about a guy without killing yourself.
i will guarantee you that when you're 30 and happily married you'll have a hard time remembering his name.
2007-03-23 18:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you're not in love. You're just having a major crush problem.
No way should you be mad at your friend.
She doesn't want him, so why'd you say no? Besides, by saying that, she's treating him like a bag of popcorn at the movies. Then again, that doesn't mean he wants /you/.
Why in the world should you be mad at him?
You're gonna live through Monday, trust me.
Don't cry. It's really, really bad that you're having suicidal thoughts, and something should be done about it. I would suggest going to a therapist or joining a group. Suicidal thoughts are a start to depression and angst, and you shouldn't go through that because of a guy.
2007-03-23 18:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl, no guy is worth dying for! I think you just might be obsessed w/ him not so much in love. He obviously doesn't see you as more than friends given that he's about to ask your friend out. And you can't be mad at neither one of them because you told your friend it was ok for her to have him and you haven't told him how you really feel. You two have known each other forever shouldn't you be able to be open about your true feelings to him. If he doesn't feel the same way about you it's not the end of the world. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck!
2007-03-23 18:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tuzita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how old you are, you dont know what love is yet. You are just feeling the bliss of having a crush. You are young, so it could be "puppy love". Dont be mad at your friend, she didn't do anything. You told her you didnt' want him and she probably believed you. But if he does ask her out, she might say no because she knows you like him and is a very good friend. Dont' be mad at him because of who he likes. Calm down and go with the flow. Everything will come out in the wash. :-) it always does
2007-03-23 18:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Don't kill yourself, i think that you need to have courage. Just go to tell that boy that you are in love with him In that you don't love him has a brother it is much more serious then that. I mean do you want to see the love of your life go to your friend,? of course not,!! Girl just tell him you will treat him right. you treated him right as a friend and you're treat him right as a girlfriend. i say call him right now or meet up now don't let him go Girl!!!! Don't be mad at him if he say no move on it might be hard. but don't let no man bring you down... LET ME KNOW HOW IT WENT OKAY ...GOOD LUCK
2007-03-23 18:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by deinakese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy is EVER worth killing yourself over. Everyone has felt that way at some point in their teens. Don't be mad at your friend, girlfriends last forever but guys will come and go.
If you feel that strongly, tell him how you feel, but I'm guessing you're young, so don't be surprised if he starts acting weird around you.
I know how it feels, like your heart is going to break in two and you're never going to feel that way again.
But it gets better.
If you feel like killing yourself, you need to talk to an adult. But remember, it will get better. You have plenty of dating years ahead of you
Good luck
2007-03-23 18:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by duvalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off - STOP CRYING OVER BOYS!!! This leads to the annoying habit of you turning into a woman who cries over MEN! not a good look honey. I understand where you're coming from ... we all do babe. If he doesn't like you in that way ... all you can do is accept that and focus on you. Not try to find someone to replace him ... replace him with yourself. I'm sure you are a beautiful young lady with a lot of talent ... focus on school and your family and before you know it ... you'll be an adult with a bunch of men lining up to date you ... just let him go hon ... no worries ... there will be others ... TRUST ME!!
2007-03-23 18:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same thing is heppaening to me!! I Just flirt with the lad and i told my mate that we shall still be mates and all that but i really liked him .. she fell out with me rally bad .. Now i feel bad I have stopped flirting with this guy and after 2 weeks he asked me out .. now me and my mate are best nates agen!!!!!!
2007-03-23 18:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋