My boyfriend hates my hair,the woman got it to short and he says wig or i am not being seen with you. What do i do?
I know i am not a prize, but i am a six 6 lost weight for him keep the house clean, cook and now my hair is too short!
I cannot stop crying, i try to be pretty for him but i am still a dog
2007-03-23 10:58:14 · 45 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH my dear. As long as you have no self esteem you arent going to be good enough for anyone especially yourself!!!! You did all those things for the wrong person......him. You should have done them for YOU.
It does you no good at all for this azz to keep putting you down either. Evidently he cares little about you or your feelings. It makes him feel good about himself to put you down. Leave him.
Shame on you for playing all of us who were really concerned for you!!!!! Hope you had your sick fun for the day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 11:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ugly" is an ugly word. Do you really want to spend your life with a man who has such ridiculous conditions for loving you? He should love you for who you are, not for how you look. If he's not capable of doing that, he's a pretty shallow person. You're not his maid, or his cook... you need to find yourself a man that will appreciate you for all the wonderful things you have to offer.
I know it's hard to step back and see it right now, but what he is doing to you is abusive. You sound like you have a very low self esteem, and that's likely because of how he's been treating you. Step back, and ask yourself if this is really the life you want to have forever?
It can be hard to move on when you are so used to being treated like that - but you deserve better! Take charge and do what you need to do to be happy - don't spend your life crying.
*hugs*
2007-03-23 11:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sunni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem, apart from the abuse from your boyfriend, is that you do not value yourself. What happened to your self-esteem? Why should you wait for him to tell you what you should be? Be your own person, stand on your own and stop trying to get approval from some guy who doesn't seem to care about you anyway. If you have to cut your hair, do it for YOU, and how it makes YOU feel, not for him or anyone else. If he doesn't want to be seen with you, the way you are, then you have no business being with him in the first place! Please pull yourself together and make your own decisions, if he doesn't like them, tough! You will be better off without him in the long run!
2007-03-23 11:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jacqui Waze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that tells you he will not be seen with you unless you wear a wig, is not worth your tears.
He is an insensitive jerk and you should be done with him right away. No matter what you do it will never be good enough for him. He thinks you are lucky to have him and you want it the other way around.
Move on and find someone who loves, respects and is proud of you. There is a soulmate for everyone. He is definitely not yours.
2007-03-23 11:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what hair grows back. If your boyfriend loves you enough he wont care about what you look like on the outside but rather whats on the inside. Dont let him make you feel this way. I'm sure your a beautiful girl. If he dosent want to be seen with you fine dont be seen with him. Dont change the person you are or what you look like to make him happy. Does he do any changing for you?
2007-03-23 11:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG - stop crying - hair grows back - if your guy is that shallow and unforgiving over something as superficial as hair length, I can just imagine what else he does or says to you to beat your self confidence in the ground... this guy is a creep - a controlling "conditional" lover - one that loves you under the condition you do as he says - that is not a healthy relationship at all. "Dog" or Barbie doll, no woman needs to be with a guy who is emotionally, physically or verbally abusive. Tell him to grow up and love you as is or hit the road.
2007-03-23 11:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg dont worry about what he thinks your beauitful on the inside and out dont make no man tell you any difference. Leave him and find someone who loves with hair,no hair,short hair,long hair or w.e Leave him before its too late this seems like a Cinderella story, you cook and clean. I feel bad for you.
2007-03-23 11:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't your appearance. It's your boyfriend's disrespectful attitude. Ditch and start running around with a guy who likes short-haired women. Yeah, you'll be alone for awhile but you won't be tolerating verbal abuse.
ps. You are probably better than a 6. Women NEVER give themselves enough credit when it comes to their looks.
2007-03-23 11:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is unconditional if he loves you your hair will grows back and to think that you do all those other things for him you need to dry your tears away it's not what he thinks it's how you feel about yourself love your self first i bet you are a beautiful person inside and out i no its not easy but find a person who will love you for what's in your heart not for what you can do for them find a style for short hair and buy some long ear rings and men like a women with some meat on there bones LOVE YOUR SELF FIRST kick him to the curve
2007-03-23 11:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by silkstockins24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?! I can't believe your boyfriend. If he is only with you for your looks, then you are in the wrong relationship. He doesn't deserve you if he's going to be that stupid about how your hair looks. Listen, you are not a dog, if he thinks you are, then he's an a**, don't listen to him. He is being such a jerk about this. Just ignore him, leave him or tell him to shut up about it and accept you for who you are, because if he doesn't, then he's just dumb.
2007-03-23 11:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the loser i bet you are perfectly fine the way you are and it shouldnt matter what he likes it what you like ..please dont change for him... it will only get worse if you stay with the controlling creep! there are alot of nice guys out there..and it sounds like he is so insecure that he makes you feel bad!! thats a cycle that they use believeme i have been there no matter what you do they are not happy,,my best bet for you as hard as it seems is to break all ties from him and try..try ..try.. to move on!! it will be hard but in time i promise you it will get better and you wil be so much happier and you will then feel better about youself.. good luck to you and remeber you deserve so much better!!
2007-03-23 11:05:40 · answer #11 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋