if you're in a committed relationship is it appropriate to have close female friends. I am in a serious relationship with a guy who hangs out with his coworkers such as bowling drinking who are 90% women. He has them their emails and they have his. Today one lady who works with him everyday and seems him about 50-60 hours a week. sent him a dirty joke.. he forwared it to me but i am upset!!! AM I wrong or is this not appropriate? please help!! is it me or am I right to feel this way.
2007-03-23 10:56:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's really fine and actually a good thing that your bf has close female friends. He isn't doing anything wrong, hes just being a normal person capable of having a girlfriend he cares for and working with lots of women. You need to look at yourself carefully and evaluate whether you're the one with the trust/insecurity/or even jealosy issues. Also, be happy that these women consider him a friend, some men are jerks and women wouldn't want anything to do with him. Trust me, the quickest way to lose this guy is to overbear and act jealose. I would see if you could be included sometimes and make friends with them too, then you'll probably see what nice people they are and why he likes them too. Trust me and good luck.
2007-03-23 11:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by jamie kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of girls may tell you its not good for him to have female friends. most those girls will be alone when they are old. having no other female contact other than you will just make him feel isolated and hell probably leave you (or at least i would if i was him)
co-workers also constantly send dirty jokes and messages to each other, especially when oyu are in a very boring office environment. Nothing is probably going on, but to make sure, you should probably go out with him when he goes out with the other coworkers and just see how things go, then youll know for sure.
2007-03-23 11:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by roberto lopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he can't help who his co-workers are. If there's nothing going on, you're good. I am male and have a very close female friend. She's married and has three kids. I respect that ad would never try anything with her. We volunteer together and spend lots of time together. Neither of us would even consider a sexual relationship. Though, I must say she is very attractive.
2007-03-23 11:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Roger M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see this as being a problem. Has he given you any reason to not trust him? There's nothing wrong with having close friends who are of the opposite sex, especially if they're not doin nothing wrong. And the fact that he forwarded the email to you makes it seem like its all innocent to me.
2007-03-23 11:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sameister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal behavior in today's society. The relationships at work are ruled differently than they used to be. He obviously isn't doing anything secretively with her or he wouldn't have forwarded it to you. Tell him how you feel and ask if they are close friends. Just be honest.
2007-03-23 11:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just didn't know how'd you'd react but if he's been on the league awhile you will just have to go along with it!
2007-03-23 11:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea.. why not? They arent doing anything else other than hanging out right??? dont be so jealous.
2007-03-23 10:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may mean well...but I wouldn't take it. Talk to him about the problem.
2007-03-23 11:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rosette H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋