I really like a guy in my class and I believe that he really likes me too from some of the things he does and says. But my mom will not let me date, but my dad (my parents are divorced) is totally ok with me dating. If he asks me out I don't want to say no, but I don't want to disobey my mom. I know that I could just go out with him and not tell her. But what if he wants to go out to the movies or something? HELP!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-23 10:55:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your parents as long as you are under their roof
2007-03-23 10:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom. Tell her you would like to invite this boy over for dinner and some TV. Let your mom get to know this boy. Bet ya she will like him just like you do, and maybe once she knows him and trusts him with you, then you might get to start dating outside your home.
Whatever you do, DON'T leave your mom out of the loop. Bad move. That would be a guaranteed ending of your friendship once she finds out. Then there would also be the added drama between your two divorced parents.
Be reasonable and your mom will see you are mature enough to have a boy/girl dating relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 18:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...how old are you? second, tell you're mom that there is a boy that you really like, and you think he likes you too. don't bring up your dad's opinion unless she asks, it wil make her feel like the bad parent. Tell her that you are growing up and would like some freedom to decide things on your own. Promise her that you won't do anything wrong or bad with him. And stick with that promise! Finally, don't do ANYTHING behind her back, because she WILL find out...trust me, i've learned that. Just hope for the best and don't keep bothering her about it. Do not whine, yell, or cry. Just be honest with her. That's the best thing to do. Good Luck!!
2007-03-23 18:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Meggie Liz! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how old you are. From the sound of what you wrote it seems you're too young to date if your Mom is opposed to dating all together.
I'd suggest you meet this boy with a bunch of friends. He has his and you have yours and that way, it doesn't seem like it's just a date but you are just hanging with friends and happened to meet some more friends.
Plus, your friends will have your back if the boy turns out to be a creep or something.
Good luck, hope that helped.
2007-03-23 18:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by hexler98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well In my opinion its about how old you are, not that i should judge. But if your like 12 you have your whole life ahead of you dating is just a waste of time filled with alot of pain and anguish. But if your like 16, personally your mom needs to cut the umbilical cord and let you go figure out life... But in the end your parents are the boss and you must listen to them, especially your mom she did birth you. Best thing to think of in this situation is who will be there for you when all heck breaks loose. "probably your mom"............All due to interpretation though im sure someone can help you better than I. I just wanna make sure i toss my 2 cents in.
2007-03-23 18:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by DarknessFalls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer... especially not knowing your age and maturity level. I would say that your best bet is having a talk with your mother about the reasons that she wants you to wait until later in life to start dating.
Something to keep in mind is that you have your entire life in front of you to spend with a future husband, but you only have these few years to spend single without any strings attached. For most people the time they spend single is a very small percentage compared to the rest of their lives.
Your mother is most likely wise in wanting you to wait, and if she has good reasons and is willing to talk with you about it I would definitely listen to her. You will thank her down the road.
2007-03-23 18:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by bigD4316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're still living with your parents, then dating is more a social thing than a serious one. Personaly, I see no point in getting involved with a guy in the first place, since odds are you wouldn't get married and end up with your heart broken.
2007-03-23 18:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Pichu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to first consult your mom about the issue. Maybe if she met the guy, she'd be a bit more comfortable. Don't go behind her back because that will lead to trouble.
And this is all theoretical, right? He may not even ask you out.
Best of luck!
2007-03-23 18:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Banana P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY!!!! Let me let you in on a little secret.. Rules are ment to be broken, and If your mom dosent like you to date, do it anyways, but be carefull, Mothers know whats bet for you, tust me Im not a girl but i understand... Just make sure you know this guy well enough to trust him, and slowly introduce the idea of dateing to ur mother!! Hope I Helped!!
2007-03-23 18:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by rawr125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all.. how old are you?
why dont you just "hang out" with him.. or ask your mom if you can "hang out" with your guy "friend"
I made the mistake years ago of just asking my mom if i could have a boyfriend before i even dated the guy!! haha that was horrible.. my parents were freaking out..
welcome to the dating world while your still living with your parents (:
2007-03-23 18:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl im tha same way. if he asks u out then say yes, but tell him ur not allowed 2 have a boyfriend, so ya'll cant do nuttin extra. but thats only if u really like him cuz u cant afford 2 get in trouble over some boy. okay.
2007-03-23 18:01:25 · answer #11 · answered by PHATChik1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋