ok i luv my grandma but shes a drunk i dont know wat to do she comes home so mad and wenever i try to be honest she gets mader i have no respect for her anymore but i still have to live with her and she is driving me nuts she thinks she is so perfect and cant make a mistake and wen she does she wont admit and blames it on me or my mom i rlly need ur help!!!!!
2007-03-23 10:51:27 · 13 answers · asked by jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunutely, we are unable to change people especially someone who is older and stuck in their own ways of doing things. The only thing we can do is change the way we react to these types of people. Since she has a drinking problem, you may want to go to an Alanon meeting so, you can learn how to cope with this type of a person in your life. Good luck!
2007-03-23 11:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Does your Mom live there as well? Maybe you can find a way to have your Mom do the talking to Grandma. My Mom was an alcoholic. Very unreasonable when she was drunk. I know where you are coming from. Are you of an age where you can work? Maybe help out so that you can eventually move out? If you are only 12 that is not a choice. Good Luck.
2007-03-23 11:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by vaelwyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, have you told your mom about this? you need to knock some sense into your mom and tell her that living with your grandma isnt the very best thing to do. i suggest you get your grandma help. from professional people. alcohol addiction is a serious problem and it wont be solved by you just trying to talk to her. it's a good thing you try. but you need to dig a little bit further. maybe ask her why she does this and that it really hurts your feelings and that you love her and dont want anything bad to happen. Good Luck. i hope it all goes ok.
2007-03-23 10:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by valpo273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this Grandma is your Mom's mom then you better sit down privately with your Mom and tell her that you are in a very awkward position. You don't want to be disrespectful to your Grandma but you also don't want to take the flack every time she is drunk and walks in the door and starts up a conversation with you. Hopefully your Mom will tell you exactly how much leeway she is willing to give you when you talk to your Grandma.
2007-03-23 11:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by carnivale4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol can really change someone (in seconds sometimes). If your grandma is an alcoholic the best thing you can do is get her help. Take her to a concillor(To talk through with. They have plenty of experience) or the docters. That this is best for her and her health and maybe even you and the family.
2007-03-23 11:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how most alcoholics are sorry to say. If you have to live with her, try to stay away from her when she is drinking. One day she will realize how she has hurt the people around her and feel horrible about it. Try to take care of your self and good luck!!
2007-03-23 11:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunks get mad and mean. Stay out of her way, just do the best you can, and learn by her mistakes. Good luck.
2007-03-23 10:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that adults make mistakes too!
Before long you will be all grown up and out of your grandmother's house. Unless she is physically and mentally abusive--ignore her, do not disrespect her and try to be the best person that you are able to be!
2007-03-23 10:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by destine4_69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, try gettin that woman to a counseler!! Seriously! This can be a problem that can just get worse and worse! Try the therapist or something. Or...just try stoppin it urself!!
Good luck!
2007-03-23 11:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by MY CHEM♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her together with the family when she's in a good mood (and not drunk, duh!) and talk about it. Apparently she's very touchy and you need to talk to her gently. Convince her that she's hurting you, your mom, and herself. Don't immediately tell her to try to quit. She won't believe anything's wrong with her. Get proof of what she's doing.
2007-03-23 11:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ pandaheart ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋