and I have a 3 year old daughter so we have been together for a year my daughter calls him daddy she never met her (father) and she probably never will, so for her to call him daddy is this ok oh and he seems as if he likes it
2007-03-23 10:43:28 · 23 answers · asked by allison b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
#1 get married, my wife had a 4 yr old when we got married (did not live together) it took about 1 yr & was daddy, 25 years later, I am still daddy. So that part is fine. But you need to get married, make this a real family..You need to commit to each other, if he does not, your daughter will be confused. She is at a very impressionable time in her life.
2007-03-23 10:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
You daughter is still young. I suggest you not encourage her to call your boyfriend "Daddy", because you are not married. If and when you do get married, that is fine. She does not have her biological father in her life, and that is not her fault. If you let her give that precious title to your boyfriend, and then things don't work out, that would be YOUR fault, and I am sure you don't want to feel the guilt with that. I hope the very best for you, your daughter, your boyfriend and your daughters biological father.
2007-03-23 17:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by cilla_n_ptx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fine. my brother has a step daughter , he has been there for her since she was 3 months old. she calls him daddy but they plan on telling her the truth when she gets old enough and then its her choice if she wants to meet her real dad or not. someone once told me anyone can be a father it takes a real man to be a daddy. hope this helps
2007-03-23 17:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by mikentammy76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys aren't married, you guys haven't made a commitment, so he's not 'daddy.'
Lots of guys like getting the milk without buying the cow, so it really doesn't matter if he likes it.
The priority is, or at least is supposed to be, the child, and helping her attach to a man who hasn't made a commitment to either her or you is a sad substitute for a father.
Why not find a real man who'll make a commitment?
2007-03-23 18:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by ravenhairedmaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy... You're are living with a guy and your daughter doesn't know the difference. So when he leaves, will you daughter call the next one daddy too.
Get a ring and get it fast or have him move out for your kids sanity.
2007-03-23 17:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As your daughter grows up, you must acknowledge you are a single parent with a partner. Your boyfriend and you are fairly young, but is it important to talk about serious commitment here? Do you want him to get involved with your daughter as a parent? Is he ready to take part of this child's life? Those are the matters you need to think about.
2007-03-23 18:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by A. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he "the one" ??? Are you planning to marry him????
Never in my wildest dreams would I live with a guy while my beloved son slept in another room...not a chance, not a prayer...why?
I think better of my son than that - he deserves from me, his mother, better than that. I also think better of myself...Talk about sending a confusing message to a child. What if this doesn't work out and there is another? -And, another? C'mon get a clue here.
That's some example you're setting for your daughter, hope it doesn't come back to bite your as* someday tenfold...
Grace
2007-03-23 17:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if he likes it. He seems to like it is not good enough. You guys need to have a serious talk about his relationship with your daughter before she gets really attached to him as her father figure and you find out he doesn't really want to be that.
2007-03-23 17:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age my daughter experimented with calling me by my birth name. So, this is a very inquisitive age. I think it is fine for your daughter to call him dad as long as he is fine with that and he is ok with being a part of her life for the rest of her life. My 2 cents.
2007-03-23 18:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by vaelwyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know her true situation. You are deceiving and confusing her. Don't wait to tell her that her bio. daddy is not with her but she has Daddy Bob or whatever to love her.
2007-03-23 17:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋