I have to work with my ex. It's definitely over for good, but I still secretly harbor feelings for her; it's been 1.5 months since the break up. She's dating around with all kinds of men now, and likes to talk about it at work. Anyway, I have a 4-day weekend coming up and I need to stop trying to avoid her when I go back to work. So, how best should I use these four days to mentally prepare myself? I'm going to tell her not to discuss her personal life with me, but I'm still going to overhear stuff and that's gonna be hard. I'd never give her a hard time because it's really none of my business, but how do I prepare and what thoughts should I hold onto to shield myself from any additional pain?
2007-03-23 10:37:01 · 16 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have a great four days. She is. You have to change your mind set and start dating and get over this.
2007-03-23 10:41:01 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to distance yourself from these feeling when working in the same work place. Just try to remember that you two are not together anymore and that life does move on. If other friends come and tell you about her, tell them that you would rather not know. Everyone gets hurt, and believe it or not, everyone learns to move on. Even though we often say, I will never allow anyone to hurt me like this again, I will never love like this again, we do. And this is what makes us human, for the next time, you love twice as hard, and if it should fall apart, we hurt twice as much. But then isn't it wonderful that we can feel all these emotions. Life is not always easy, but all of it is a learning step. Hope you soon will find the love of your life, Don't forget to keep living, and loving.
2007-03-23 10:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... if she is talking about all these other dates with men in front of you, she's being a dam fool. There is plenty of time in the day away from work and with friends to talk about this stuff. She probably just either wants to make you jealous or what's to get back at you.
Don't avoid her at work... be professional and keep it simple; business only.
Go out of town for those 4 day... get a hotel somewhere nice where you can relax and swim in a pool or something. Or go camping with some friends... take some time for you.
Regarding your feelings. If it is over, its done. Prepare yourself to let go. Think of her as a stranger without a dam clue.
Take care of your self and good luck.
2007-03-23 10:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be difficult for you, but it can be done. Actually I would not avoid her, I think that makes the healing process more difficult. Have you heard of this saying, Face your Demons, well in a sense this is what I am saying. As time goes by you will be able to toughen up and be able to treat her just like anyone else. Allow yourself to heal, although it may be painful. Every time that you see her just think that she was not the right one for you and therefore you deserve the happiness of having the right one in your life.Say this enough and in time you will believe that you can be happy with the right person and will no longer dwell on someone who has made you so unhappy.
2007-03-23 10:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No shield needed grab a fine looking babe and tap the heck out of it man bang bang these little things till your ex-girl is just another one of the many. Before getting married there were so many couldn't tell you the name of the one was with or the one before that if you two were serious there be a ring - no - move on to the next and forget the last one who?????
2007-03-23 10:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhat of a bytch isn't she? She knows that she is twisting the knife in you believe me.
Too bad you couldn't get a transfer or a job somewhere else as that would be the ideal solution.
The best thing to do is to ignore her. If that doesn't work when she seems to be deliberately provoking you, wait for an opportunity and announce loudly, "so did you tell him you have herpes?"
She should shutup after that.
2007-03-23 10:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to become who you need to be and you have 4 days.
That is that you have to become a man who doesn't give a rats *** what she does...the way some women are, she's doing it to you on purpose. She needs to become like air to you. She doesn't exist as a human being. Picture her as filth and uncivilized. Treat her like filth and that she doesn't deserve to be in your presence. Every time you hear her voice, you need to act like you would if someone passed gas...laugh at her ignorance and make her feel like a fool. Don't let up until the pain is gone. Move on without making a scene about it. Just defend yourself against this type of floozy woman in the future.
2007-03-23 10:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any particular method for getting over someone. The only thing that EVER works is
A) Time
B) A new romance.
Sorry, but those are your choices.
2007-03-23 10:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with your suituation I suggest that you have to be a great pretender...Prayer is the best key for you to survive,2nd positive mentality,3rd get along with others inside the office and fourth stop avoiding her,,,
2007-03-31 09:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a page from her book and move on. If you can't work around her, work somewhere else.
2007-03-31 08:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋