Is he Cheating on Me???????=-( (Men can I have ur HONEST opinion, ladies too ofcourse:))?

Question

Okay I am currently five months pregnant with my first child and I was warned about hormones and emotional rollarcoasters, but this time it's too much for me to ponder on my own. Ridiculous??? I know. But still help please. Okay heres the deal my boyfriend and I live together, and I must admit we've been having many problems lately. His daughters just left to Texas with his ex and she's giving him a very hard time... with that said, he's been cold and silent towards me, he wont talk to me, or acknowledge my presence, and there are many times I do get hurt by it. Anyway, a couple of days ago he wore cologone to work, and normally I'd see nothing wrong with that, but in his profession it's not necessary, he's a security officer at an facility in a bad neighborhood, I found it supecious so I commented about it. He got defensive, and upset. Then there has been once or twice that I see he takes his cell phone into the restroom with him when he takes a shower or keep it on silent. Is it me?

Answer 1

Doesn't sound good. Sorry.

Answer 2

There are many things a person does when they are trying to hide something from you and you ask them about it... They will get really defensive about it...They will not look you straigh in the eyes when they answer you..Usually it is down and away or off to the side. I say if you have nothing to hide why get all mad about it. Its just a simple question that you are asking them. But this doesnt always work in every case some people will just be shocked that you asked then that and get upset because you even thought that they could be cheating on you.....It might just be your emotions getting to you from being pregnant.. Honestly it is right to be suspicous if they all of a sudden change there habbits of there every day life..If they erase there call logs or SMS.. erasing them every once in awhile is normal but if they erase them through out the day then there is something going on that they dont want someone to know about..

Taking your cell phone to the restroom isnt always a sign of cheating. Could of just had to make a phone call to his job or something and didnt want to wait to go to the restroom or had to make another phone call...

but in some cases some people take them to the restroom because they dont want a certain someone to hear what they are talking about..

On another thing when some people are having a hard dealing with there emotions they will be very short and act angry or cold towards anyone even the one that is holding his child.. They will almost shut someone out of there life because they cant cope with something..

this is only my opinion

i hope the best for you and everything works out

Answer 3

The cell phone thing sounds a little ridiculous especially if it's somethig he has never done before. As far as the cologne thing goes my boyfriend use to be a security officer @ UPS and he would wear cologne. He just likes to smell good. I wouldn't think to much into that. You also have to understand that if his kids mean the world to him and she took them away he's going to be under tremendous amount of stress. How would you feel if someone took your child? Some men just naturally keep there feelings bottled up and it's hard for them to talk about things. Especially if it's something tat might "choke" them up. Give him a little space for a few days and then let him know you feel a little neglected and you want to help him in anyway you can with what's going on. If that doesn't work honey peek in his call log of his phone whenever you get a chance, but make sure he ain't around or he ain't the violent type if he would catch you. If his call logs and txt msg logs are empty then I might start worrying.

Answer 4

I hate to tell you, but most private detectives say the spouse who suspects their partner is cheating is usually right. However, you're in a hormone-enhanced state, and that needs to be considered too.
I have to chastise you for making a baby with a man who has made no serious commitment to you. Shacking up for sex is not a commitment, which is just one more reason marriage exists. Over 80% of shack up relationships end whether they marry or not. Why do women keep shacking up and making babies with men who refuse to commit??? Don't you know what kind of havoc that wreaks in a child's life, not to mention your own??? That's not liberation, that's being ok with being used!

However, there are two questions that need to be answered: 1) Did he ever take his cell phone in the bathroom before? 2) Did he cheat on his first wife?

When partners start behaving suspiciously, that's a good indication they're being less than forthcoming. Also, if he cheated on her, he'll probably cheat on you, since you accepted him even after knowing he cheated on somebody else.

This is probably too complex a situation for yahoo answers to shed enough light on to determine what's going on for sure--despite your efforts, there are still to many unanswered questions.

Please, for the love of God, make better decisions in your love life now that you have a baby who needs a stable home environment. So far, that hasn't been provided.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Boy oh boy, starting very openly I have not been a model husband in my life, the first thing to really consider is, are these things truly 'out of character'?

Wearing cologne, if it was just once, I wouldn't be too worried about that. If the cologne went missing and is in the vehicle or somewhere at work - that's peculiar. If he wears cologne other times and started wearing it to work, maybe he just wants to feel more appealing - not to appeal to anyone just for self-worth.

Taking the cel phone both into the john and shower is a little strange but occasionally if you are calling a buddy or sending a text, or your ex is harassing you, you just might be doing that. (still lets be clear, he doesn't want you alone with his cel phone, so whats he hiding there?)

As for the ex, or maybe someone else who knows him well, what was he like with his other kids maybe babies really aren't something that he is excited about, you are pregnant and that means... a baby is on the way!?

I don't envy you, clearly you need to tell him you feel ignored, hormones or otherwise. You run the risk of more defense and denial and perhaps he is just stressed but like my wife says... if I don't tell her what it is she is forced to come up with her on conclusions and make decisions based on them.

Answer 6

The cologne thing doesn't sound too bad for me but the whole cell phone thing does. Thats actually really strange but maybe he's just affraid you will get all paranoid when he's really just talking to a new friend or somthing and doesn't want to upset you because its nothing. Geez now yall got me paranoid cuz my girl jus started to do that too with the cell phone:(

Answer 7

Yes it sounds like he is cheating on you. any man that takes the cell to washroom or puts it on silent is trying to hide something. I would check his phone when he forgets it lying around and write #'s down, when you find out. confront him, and then get rid of him when your suspicions are confirmed. You should be with someone who really loves you not a cheating idiot who has no respect for you. Take care Heather

Answer 8

Step,
His actions are definitely suspicious. The hiding/silencing of the phone, the cologne and the defensiveness are very good signs he is hiding something. May not be cheating but if you have that gut feeling he is cheating, you are probably right. Trust your instincts.

Answer 9

i know you need to respect your love one's privacy BUT in this case it sounds like something's up!! if i were you i would check his cell phone--his recent calls and such.. if you don't want to go thru his cell phone then there's always the monthly bills it's either by mail or online. I hope my assumptions are wrong but i'm telling you this because my uncle cheated on my aunt and acted similar to the way your husband had. Anyways,I bless you and your child.

Answer 10

Yeah He is he has know reason to take the phone in the restroom but just asking him if he say no just spy on him

Answer 11

it is suspicious. If you gets defensive it tends to mean he is hiding something. If he had nothing to hide he would of just reassured you in a calm way.