My dad is lazy and abusive, my mom is hardworking yet deals with it all, my brother is turning into a toubled teen who is most likely going to be dealing with depression. I want to help, yet I want to escape. I'm in college and live in the dorms but I'm practically forced to come home every weekend for something. Any advice?
2007-03-23 10:15:20 · 8 answers · asked by Destine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have talked to my mom, and my brother isn't dealing with full-fledged depression yet....
I'm just afraid of what could be.
2007-03-23 10:44:00 · update #1
You can't change anyone. You can only change how you react to them.
Your father is your mother's problem. If she accepts his treatment there is nothing you can do about it. She needs to learn why she allows herself to be in that situation.
Your brother is your parent's responsibility. If your brother needs outside help, he can inquire at school or from the family doctor.
I understand you love your family and want what is best for them, but there are things you just can't help.
2007-03-23 10:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Colleges usually offer free counseling services to students. I highly recommend you check your college web site. If they do not offer anything, your local city/county Social Services department (look in the phone book or on the yp.yahoo.com yellow pages) and they can recommend free services.
I honestly believe that is the best thing to do is to talk to someone about it, that is why you came here. I feel for you! Stick it out. Also.. you are an adult, maybe give yourself a week off and tell them you need to stay the weekend becauseyou want to focus on studying...
2007-03-23 17:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about bettering the situation by leaving the lazy hubby and get your brother in treatment right a way!!!! Other than that...stay away and save yourself because there isnt any thing else you can do.
2007-03-23 17:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one, there's not much you can do but be there for brother....be his support system. Your mom is the only one with the power to change the way she is being treated.
2007-03-23 17:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your family on an outing of some sort to the movies or to the mall and stop your dad from being lazy and get him having fun stop your brother from depressiion and keep your mom away from having to work hard. Your advice giver-Ashley P.S. please pick my edvice as best
2007-03-23 17:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Boff Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda have this problem as well
1. my brother is getting cranky and mom gets mad too much
Well, maybe you should talk to them or something I don't know but it works
2007-03-23 17:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by SilverStream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor at school.
You may love your family, but sometimes being there may be a toxic situation.
get yourself mentally healthy before dealing with anything more.
2007-03-23 17:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by amamom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make plans for the weekend you ae you r own person and you should have your own life and help them as well if he is abusive you should report him and depression i am not shure.
2007-03-23 18:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋