My son is 16 and has a serious "mouthing off" problem. His father went off on a buisness trip to New York for a couple of days, and my son and I didn't get along so well. He cussed at me, refused to do his homework, and went the the offica at school. I called my husband and toled him about his behavior and my husband said he would have a little talk with him when he got home. My husband was five minutes away when my son and I really got into it. He refused to give me back money he said that he needed to " borrow from my purse" I basically toled him flat out, if u don't give me that money there's going to be some problems. My son pushed me down. And, convient enough my husband walked in when he pushed me down. Steve ran over to him and grabbed his arm. H e hellped me up and then bent my son Riley, over the kitchen counter. Riley was screaming what the hell dad. My husband pulled off his belt and started swatting his butt atleast 20 times. My son has never been spanked before.
2007-03-23 10:04:08 · 23 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I think it is probably too late to start spanking, but your husband could have jacked him up against the wall by his collar and get up in his face, let him know what time it is and tell the son he will NOT be disrespecting anybody in the house especially someone who has not paid One Single Bill. Start spanking the son now, may lead the son to start dialing 911 and then CPS would be involved then you would be dealing with another set of problems. Moving forward, the husband NEEDS to lay down the LAW of the land which is the house rules which includes keeping his hands off his mother and her belongings. You want money get a job, get your mouth in check, do your chores and if you don’t like the rules and want to leave there is the door and make sure you leave the key and only take what you have on your back, cuz everything is the parents who paid for it. The son has no fear or respect for the mother clearly that is why he pushed her and steals from her. If that son does not fall back and get his behavior in order the Jail Officer will and whatever spanking the father gave him will NOT compare to the kind of spanking he will get from his Cells Mates.
2014-03-05 08:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Melinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well GOOD HEAVENS...don't you think 17 is a bit old to START disciplining him? What were you and your husband thinking all these years? No wonder he's an out-of-control smartA*S*S punk. He's not only disrespectful; he's emotionally, verbally and physically abusive. He's probably angry with both of you that you haven't cared about him enough to train him from infancy that there are certain behaviors that are not appropriate and not to be tolerated in a civilized household. How long has he been stealing from your purse? And being physically violent? You have a big problem now that the kid's had all these years to develop these behaviors with no appropriate intervention. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear and you aren't likely to straighten your son up before he ends up in some serious trouble. You will probably need some professional help to get him under control and at seventeen, it's pretty late to even expect much from that. You are a perfect example of parents who don't discipline their kids and then want help when it's all but too late. The schools are full of these kids and teachers (of which I WAS one) are finding other careers where there is less violence! (which I did).
2007-03-23 10:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a hard time accepting the fact that an adult would spell told "toled".
If you are not a kid and this is not a prank question then your son doesn't respect you because you don't make him. You wait for Daddy to do it. The next time he takes money from your purse without your permission call the police. That's what happens in the real world and it's time he learns that in life there are consequences to your actions. One day someone will shoot him in the face if you don't get him under control now and if they do it will be your fault and we will get to see one more mother on TV crying about what a good boy her son was before he became a murdering gang member and got shot in the face.
2007-03-23 10:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by stephyhall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is even a true scenario....YOU should have bounced that kid all over the house. THe FIRST time he was disrespectful you should have over did the punishment including busting his assss. SO many people are against knocking the hell out of a kid, BUT it is the way I raised my 4 sons (8, 15, 17, 19) and besides my 8 year old ADHD kid giving me grief, My 3 older boys would jump off a mountain before they even thought to disrespect me and let me tell you, I raised them alone and I BUSTED that asss if and when needed. Get a grip and stop worrying about violence begits violence and think more about making these kids respectful of ALL and being productive society members. THis is very well possible without spankings BUT if a spanking is needed...its NEEDED!!!
2007-03-23 10:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once you give a teen control enough to push you down, you are in trouble. If he has never been spanked before, being a teen isn't the time to start. I think what your husband did was reactive, not proactive. Should have been years ago that he sat him down and explained how to treat you or any other woman.
That being said, I understand how you must be feeling right now. My teen son and I have always been very close - but lately he tends to think he can run his mouth at me and not my husband. You usually hurt the people you love the most when you are an out of control hormonal teenager.
Please try and seek some help with anger management and communication. I don't always think counseling is the best thing. But in this case it seems all of you are out of ideas on how to communicate and it will only get worse if you don't do something about it.
Best of Luck. Teens can be challenging, but it is our job as parents to stay cool, calm and collected.
2007-03-23 10:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Lady you need to get tuff with this out of control kid that sounds spoiled rotten. Stop accepting bad behavior, it dosen't get better. If the kid cannot respect you, then you must pack his bags and invite him out of your home. Perhaps if he lives on the streets he will learn to appreciate the wonderful things that I'm sure that you have done for him. It's call tough love. Let me tell you, if you continue to allow this behavior, you will someday be visiting him in a Super Max Prison.
2007-03-23 10:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Peggy G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seth: Bravo Bravo. That spanking was well needed. That spanking will teach him a thing or two. hitting children is a good thing example A. Me. I turned out excellent and my sister hasnt been hit at all and she is the biggest brat of all. Conclusion- Spanking equals good. Everyone has to try something new.
Damon: ....
2007-03-23 12:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by guitarist101damon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally am not for corporal punishment, but i think your hubby was very upset that you guys son would disrespect him mom (you) like that. see, if i was your hubby i would have grabbed the phone and phoned the police and specifically told them that you guys 16 yr old son physically assulted your wife. he needs tough love and for the police to come there and detain him for some time as a scare tactic/lesson. if a 16 yr old boy is hitting his mom then just think what in the heck he will do to his future wife?!?! i think your hubby acted on impulse...he did not mean it to be mean or abusive to the boy it was a quick reaction...but just tell your hubby that nextime this 16 yr old boy of you and his needs some tough love and get the law involved i mean i bet your 16 yr old is a lot bigger than u and physically stronger.
2007-03-23 10:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband did the right thing. However, since he has never been spanked before he might feel hurt, betrayed, deceived, but nevertheless he deserved that spanking, he has to respect you as his Mother but most importantly you have to earn that respect, and let him know he cannot touch you. I think family counseling could really help you before its too late.
2007-03-23 10:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by just curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this a "new behavior" for your son? as in, did it just recently develop?
perhaps he is taking drugs, or drinking? or indulging in other behaviors you're not aware of.
i think that you and your husband might consider getting a handle on his behavior before he is completely out of control.
consult a professional, if you can't do it on your own.
hugz to you and your family
2007-03-23 10:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋