When I picked my son up at preschool today. The teacher was making ugly faces at me, and said God Bless you with Matthew. (Meaning he is a horrible child.) Then she told me Matthew hit her today because she(the teacher) was teasing him! She said that my son said sorry right after. But she told me that she told him that , that isn't good enough! She said he was totally wrong! I agree that he shouldn't have hit her. But I am really angry that she was teasing him! He was playing soccer and she told him that she was going to take the ball from him. I guess she thought it was funny. So she went to take the ball (teasing him) and he was upset and hit her. And she did admit to me that she was teasing him. If it wasn't close to thevend tof the school year I would pull him out and send him somewhere else! My son was going to another class there last year. Never, Never did I hear anything bad about him! Am I over reacting or was she wrong also. I am going to call the director.
2007-03-23 09:32:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He never has hit any teacher the past two years. He is a great sweet boy that all the kids love!
2007-03-23 09:33:27 · update #1
Also, Matthew never hit a child at school the past two years!!!
2007-03-23 09:35:19 · update #2
For him to get angry enough to hit her, she must have been really taunting him. I cannot see him hitting her if she was just being playful with him. While it is fine to be playful, she shouldn’t have been teasing him. Yes, hitting is wrong. Your son knows this and apologized. She should have had a conversation with your son about it and it should have been over once your son told her he was sorry.
The person who needs to apologize now is this teacher. Your son deserves an apology from her for her behavior. Another person who deserves and apology is you! It was extremely unprofessional of her to make faces at you and deliver a nasty comment.
Keep an eye on this teacher. I hope that she does not develop and ill feelings toward your son and begins to treat him unfairly. Make sure you speak with him about her on a regular basis. If he continues to have problems with her, speak with the director. Best of luck!
2007-03-23 10:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are overreacting. She was also totally wrong.
First off, that was a horrible comment for her to make to you and to act towards you.
Second, teachers have no reason or place to tease a child, especially a young one. It sounds like he hit her because she teased him. They are both at fault, but hitting is never the answer. I am sure he apologized because he knew HE was wrong, but did SHE apologize to him for teasing him?
Third, she should never tell a child that is apologizing that that is not good enough. If anything she should have explained to him that hitting is not okay and that he may have had to sit down away from the other children, but that was wrong of her to say that. The teacher should have had the common sense not to tease a child especially if she saw he was getting mad.
I would call the director and explain what happened from the minute you walked in the door with the attitude and comment she gave you. Let her know the teacher admitted teasing the child and that is why he hit her. Make sure she knows that you think it is wrong for your son to hit but it is also totally unacceptable for a teacher to tease a child. Let the director know that you are angry and why
2007-03-23 10:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the teacher is blowing things out of proportion! If the situation is really what happened, then the reaction your son had was brought on. And while it's not ok to hit, I don't think it was worth making a big fuss about to you. The teacher should have talked with your son, found out the reasons for hitting, appologize for antagonizing, tell him next time he needs to use his words, and move on. It would be a different story if he was hitting friends out of frustration, but a teacher should be mature enough to handle the situation.
Don't dwell on the incident. Make sure you emphasize to your son that he needs to use his words if he is frustrated or angry. If his words are not working, go get help from a teacher. If the teacher gives you another report like this in the future, have a talk with the preschool director.
2007-03-23 10:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by j_mo83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is he starting Kindergarten at 4 1/2? It doesn't sound like a kindergarten enviornment is suitable for him.. yet. A year of pre-k could get him used to a classroom setting. Even though many children appear advanced (they can count to 100, know the alphabet, can do basic math skills, etc) it doesn't mean they have the self-control skills developed yet that will enable them to learn in a highly structured enviornment. Hold off on the doctor and meds, as a mental health professional I can tell you that there is almost NO legit reason for a child that age to be on behavior medications. However if you can afford the time and money consider a family based therapist to assess your situation and give you some more personal recommendations.
2016-03-29 01:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think you're over reacting. It was wrong for her to tease your son. I would suggest that you make sure your son knows it was wrong and if you do call the director make sure to state all that you have here. Other then that the only other thing you can do is maybe express your feelings to the teacher. I hope this helps! =D
2007-03-23 09:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the teacher was teasing him in a loving way. I play soccer with my 5 yr old preschooler and steal the ball from her all the time. If it concerns you ask her nicely not to tease him anymore.
I'm sure he was just acting out from being teased. Talk to him about it and tell him hitting is not acceptable. Maybe he could of used his words instead to tell his teacher he didn't like what she was doing.
If he's not a violent kid than I doubt if he will do it again.
2007-03-23 09:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The teacher should know better than to tease a small child - they take things very seriously and don't know how to deal with it. The teacher and pupil should apologise to each other, and a life lesson will be learnt by both parties!
Hope that helps,
Simon H
2007-03-23 09:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Simon H 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she teased him to the point he hit her and he's had no behavioral problems prior; then it sounds like the teacher's a bit of a *****.
I went to religious school and thought my teachers were WAY screwed up and clueless.
2007-03-23 09:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you - yes she was wrong to hit her, but she was even more wrong to tease a child who is on the verge of developing trusting relationships
2007-03-23 10:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by glazeddonut27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on him sounds like she deserved it :O) Not really i should go and see the head teacher and report it.
2007-03-23 09:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by neilhollydood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋