why do you guys sometimes need so much time to make the first move?

Answer 1

Because they are just as scared and insecure as women.

Answer 2

It's mostly primal. Back 10s of thousands of years ago, and before, when we were developing as a species, we lived in small groups of 20 or so people...if you freaked out a woman then EVERY woman in the group would know about it ASAP. That messes up your chance to breed. Also, if you aren't careful with who you talk to, you might end up getting a rock in the head from another guy who likes her.

In today's situation, men still feel those fears; however, most guys will take the chance if given the right signals.

The problem is, those fears are combined with the social fears (I'm not good looking/clever enough), too much respect for the woman ("she is too good for me" without knowing her), the dismissive and mean nature of some women when they sense a lack of confidence (creep), a complete and utter lack of masculine roll models (nothing ventured nothing gained, etd.) you have what seems like a frightening situation for many men.

That being said...if you want my opinion, the best thing a woman can do is give a man a nice smile and say hi. If he doesn't pick up on that, move on. I know it's scary, but the situation seems that way for most men as well. Truthfully, a smile and a "hi" will get most men with any sort of backbone to respond.

Answer 3

I think it is because women are very complicated to say the least and what may work on one lady will only leave the next lady running down the street screaming for help!

I love the way the "Ladies of the Night" do it in Costa Rica.

Their line is "Hey Baby! You want some company tonight"!

Now usually when a lady down there tells a man this you know what they mean.

But how would you react to some man who would ask you this especially if he was interested?

Chances are that you would just blow him off - right?

Answer 4

Commitment most likely.
Us guys are usually afraid to make the next step.
Knowing things will change.
From sleeping together one night, morning bed head, morning breakfast together.
Some guys just don't fall in line with some of these things that they wish to happen so soon.
So Commitment is the big one here.

Answer 5

Most of the time it's an issue of being "vulnerable"....what will she think? does my breath smell? what if she rejects my move? what if i get my fingers caught in her hair and pull it accidently? The list goes on....the secret is that "if" you are waiting for him to make the first move...then initiate it with him. He's likely thinking how great it would be to make the first move, but is just nervous

Answer 6

Because more often then not the 'first move' is left up to the guy so they are the ones risking rejection....meanwhile, we are sitting there thinking 'C'mon........c'mon.....' when we are just as capable of making the first move.

Answer 7

It is harder for men because one of the worst things that can happen to us is rejection from someone who we like. Every man alive has the fear of being rejected. For women it's easier because men don't normally reject women.

Answer 8

anxiety, sometimes even guys are uncertain in situations. you guys can send out some pretty funny signals sometimes.

Answer 9

why dont girls try making the first move
and then you will see how hard it is to do so
when you try it
then you can tell me why i take so long

Answer 10

like a prowling cat...we need time to set up the trap!