As stated in a previous question I don't have a good relationship with my dad. I already have my mind made that I do not want to have the Father Daughter dance, so I need suggestions on how to avoid it. I know I can tell the DJ but that might not stop my dad from cutting in. Suggestions?
2007-03-23 09:24:49 · 13 answers · asked by dynamicduo79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Take it from someone who doesn't have a good relationship with her dad....if you don't want to have a father-daughter dance, don't. Personally, I didn't want one either and planned to just dance with my husband and skip the father-daughter one. Turned out that my dad left halfway through the reception anyway (before the family was introduced) and he wasn't even around anyway!
As far as your dad not cutting in, there's no way to stop him from doing it if he really wants to without causing a big scene. Perhaps you should let him know that you're not having a father-daughter dance in advance so he's not shocked or surprised on that day.
Just remember, it's your wedding......do what you want to do......'cause in the end, it's your special day darn it!
2007-03-23 09:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by soccerref 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who would your dad cut in on?
You definitely don't have to have the Father-Daughter dance if you don't want to. If your fiance is dancing with his mother, you may feel a little awkward not doing something with your dad, or rather, people may try to make you feel awkward. Remember that's their issue, not yours.
If you suspect your father may make an issue of it, make sure your DJ knows YOUR wishes, and maybe let a couple close friends in on the situation so they can keep an eye on your father.
I went back and read your other question. To be quite honest, I'd have a hard time inviting someone like your father to my wedding, even if he was my father. Given his personality, I'd DEFINITELY have some people looking out for you and keeping an eye on him if you do choose to invite him to the wedding.
2007-03-23 16:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you are inviting a father to your wedding that you do not get along with? If you feel compelled to do so, out of tradition or duty, then I'd sit down with my dad ahead of time and discuss your feelings with him if at all possible. Tell him that, while you may feel it is important to include him in the day, that your acrimonious relationship gets in the way of wanting to share that special moment (father daughter dance) with him. If he is hurt, then perhaps you two can work things out later. If he gets mad and chooses not to come, then perhaps you are better off without him. Find a "father figure" to have that dance with and enjoy your special day.
2007-03-23 16:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by JennyP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought: How close are you to your fiance's dad? If you have a close relationship then maybe you can dance with your new father in law while your husband dances with his mom. It would be a nice gesture to your new family. Or is there maybe a close grandfather or uncle or even brother? It says Father-Daughter dance but you can choose someone else to do it with. Good luck.
2007-03-25 20:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your dad and talk about it. Chances are if your dad cuts in, then it really means something to him to have the father/ daughter dance. I know it is going to take a lot of guts and a lot of patients, but TALK TO HIM. He is your one and only father and I know he loves you! This is a special day to you and how much more special would it be to have made a mend with your dad and have him dance with you and get to show you off as his little girl! Congrats, and good luck!
2007-03-23 19:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wouldnt hurt to dance with your dad. You dont have to do the dance specifically for him, but if he cuts in it shouldnt be a problem. You may not get along with your father now, but things may get better in the future and then you will regret not having that moment with him. Trust me a lot of things change after you get married, your mentality and they way you see things changes.
2007-03-23 16:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should do it. I understand what you mean by not having a good relationship with your Dad but he will be the Grandfather to your kids and people do change over time. Plus you can never go back and redo it. I lost my Dad when I was 16 we never got along but when I got married I would have gave anything to have him there.
2007-03-23 16:34:27 · answer #7 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your dad up front but you should also cut out the mother and groom dance too... so it doesn't seem so intentional.
Just do me a favor and really really think about it before you cut it out. Would it really hurt to dance one dance with him?
I don't have the greatest relationship with my father either....
2007-03-23 16:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You simply don't plan one, which means you don't have the groom/mother dance either - they can dance at a later time.
Simply have the first bride and groom dance, then go right into the wedding party dancing, followed by family dancing - and just don't specify.
2007-03-24 07:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell you dad that you don't want to do it. You just want to keep the reception simple, your just doing the bride and groom dance, bouquet toss and garder throw. If he does not understand, then try to explain to him why you do not want to do it.
2007-03-23 16:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋