I am kind of desperate and im trying to not be desperate and i really want my ex back but he doesnt like needy and desperate girls.So please help me not be so needy and desperate so i can get my ex back.He broke up with me because he said i dont give him space.How would i stop being needy,desperate and give him his space.Please help me change my habits because i really want this guy back but i dont know how to stop being so needy,desperate and give him space.I mean i do call him atleast once a day and i feel like an idiot because he doesnt like me to call him but i do please help me on this one i dont like being so annoying,needy and despearate.
2007-03-23 09:22:23 · 30 answers · asked by emochick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW...calm down!!! Don't you have a life of your own??? Don't center your life around this dude. I know it's hard but you can do it. Occupy your time with friends, family, school work (if you are still in school), job, etc. When you have an urge to call him, just remember he doesn't want to talk to you. Show him you can be your own woman who doesn't need him
2007-03-23 09:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to want to change for you...not him. And if he's getting upset because you call him ONCE a day...that's giving him plenty of space. If you were calling him like 4 and 5 times a day just to see what he's doing, then that's a little needy. But maybe you guys can talk or maybe you can find someone new.
2007-03-23 16:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is not the way to start. Now you are being needy and desparate toward the Yahoo Answers group. You need to 1. Stop. 2. Chill. 3. Breathe. 4. Be. 5. Be YOURSELF. Start thinking about you, not him. What makes you happy? He doesn't. He makes you really sad and uptight and wound up and stressed (see your question). What really makes you happy, through and through? Is it Alice in Chains on a mild spring day with your window down and the rain hitting your cheek? Is it hiking through the woods with the sun shining and the birds singing? Rollerblading recklessly down the sidewalk at too-high speeds? Find out what YOU like (not what he likes) and go do it, and have fun being YOU.
2007-03-23 16:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is you gotta act like you don't care about him, even though your going nuts insides your head. The only person that can help you change your ways is yourself.
I on the other hand like needy girls. I find it a turn on that they always want to be with me. Instead of getting back with someone who wants you to change, get someone who likes you for you.
Once you bulid up your self confidence and esteem then you'll stop being so needy. But only you can change that.
2007-03-23 16:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question #1:
Do you know who you are?
Question #2:
As a woman, do you understand the power you have?
If you take a step back from the situation, we will see that you have gotten into some what a co-dependent relationship. I bet you look at other relationships that you have had, there has been this same pattern going on.
I may not know you entire situation but my advice to you is to love yourself, and then allow others to come to you that want to do the same.
Step away from the light Carolann... You will be OK, I promise.
2007-03-23 16:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by houstongirl77084 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't like you to call him? Girl, this guy sounds like a loser. You can probably do better. The best thing you can do at this point is just don't talk to him...call him or anything. That's how you give someone space.
Calling someone once a day isn't needy and you shouldn't go out of your way to overhaul yourself for someone that sounds like they don't appreciate you.
2007-03-23 16:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Salt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his ex for a reason. You need to figure out why your so needy and desperate before you can get into a relationship with someone else. Good luck w/ everything.
2007-03-23 16:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing, I have friends who have been in the same situation. But, like in all other situations, these sort of things depend on the individual. I think that you should give up on him. I don't mean to be harsh but if he is not giving you the time of day, then you need to find someone who is worth your time that will spend time on you. I am sure you are a bright and caring individual who can most definitely find a more worthy counterpart.
2007-03-23 17:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by [[sierra]] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to get him back. Men call women "needy and clingy" when they don't want to commit and you are getting too close. I bet he didn't call you needy when the two of you were intimate. This guy is a loser...move on and be thankful you didn't waste any more time on him.
2007-03-23 16:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by True Believer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with calling him once a day and wanting to be with the man you are with alot. You need to forget about him and find someone that loves you for just the way you are and appreciates the attention that you give him. You are who you are, and im sorry but you probably cant change that. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 16:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Namename 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋