I made a few mistakes in the beginning of my relationship...for example talking to my ex boyfriend...erasing text messages or calls and some flirtation. Yes I know I'm a horrible person but I have tried to move past all those mistakes i made with him. I have changed...and pretty much done every single thing he's asked of me including not hanging out with certain friends or going to certain places. I let him look at my phone...tell him everything and I am 100% devoted to him. He still has many issues with trusting me and it has an effect on us and the way I feel about myself. We are both really outgoing and love to go out but it seems every time we do it hashes up the past and we end up bickering. Its not healthy. I know I made mistakes but he makes me feel like I am a terrible person. Do you think he will ever be able to trust me again??? What can I do to get the trust to where it should be? Nothing I've done so far has seemed to worked completely.... Thanks:(
2007-03-23 09:19:58 · 10 answers · asked by Elizabeth M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can still regain his trust but it will be long and tedious process. He must or feel that in everything you do, you're doing things because you love him.
Trust, if broken, is always hard to regain back. If you really love him, make all the necessary moves now. Remember always, it will be long and need a lot of determination for you to regain the trust again.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 09:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not a horrible person. So you talked to your ex-boyfriend: BIG DEAL. I talk to my ex-girlfriends. It doesn't mean I want to get back together with them--no thanks, I learned my lessons! It just means I still consider them friends and that we managed to get past our breakups without hating each other.
I'm sorry to say this, but your current boyfriend has some trust issues that will never be resolved by you catering to his fears. If he can't recognize that you want to be with him based upon the fact that you ARE with him and that you spend your time with him, IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK. He doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a puppet he can manipulate and control! Who is he that he should have the right to decide who your friends are?!?
My advice is to cut your losses and find someone who will trust you without imposing rules upon you. The path you're on now is not one with a happy ending. I've seen this type of person before, and all to often such behaviour leads to violence. Get out now before it's too late.
2007-03-23 09:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are not a terrible person, secondly, he cannot make you feel anything other than that which you choose to feel.
You made some mistakes, and if he cannot work through his issues, move on..........You will be wasting your time if you continue to try to fix yourself in order to meet his wounded needs.
2007-03-23 09:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by MeanderingMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth its going to be very hard. But if you really changing for good he should see that and hopefully trust you once again. Dont give up.
2007-03-23 09:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by ms.olveraangelica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you surprised that he dont trust you. If youve done it once his thinking that youre going to do it again i know you want his trust but after someones done what you have they never have trust with the same person again
2007-03-23 09:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by kimliveshere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a trust is broken it is near impossible to ever get it back
sounds like he still does not trust you
probably never will completely
you have to decide if you want to live like you are under a microscope every day of your life.
be cool...
2007-03-23 09:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard for you to gain his trust but if he has decided not to forgive you then you must ask him and then, let him go. It is no longer a matter between you and him...
2007-03-23 09:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time can prove to your bf that u have truly changed...you dont really expect him to forgive you just like that....what ur doing right now is showing him that ur trying to change but he can't forgive you solely on this...he has to see that u have actually changed....so do more than try and find better ways to show him that u'll never ever ever do it again
2007-03-23 09:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
the only thing u can trust is using fresh new batteries
2007-03-23 09:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your misbehaving past will always be in his mind.... if i was him , I would give you a spanking and try to forget the past and only look ahead
2007-03-23 09:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋