My sister is getting married in a few weeks and I just got the invitation in the mail. I was not invited with a guest. I am not currently seeing anyone, but still I think that since I am in the immediate family, I should have been offered the opportunity to bring a date.
2007-03-23 09:19:55 · 14 answers · asked by heybeerman29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Probably she could have asked just for the sake of courtesy since you are her sister. On the other hand, because you are sisters, she'd already know that you weren't seeing anyone special that you'd want to bring.
When my husband and I got married, it was very important to us to invite every guest by name - we didn't do any "and guests." We felt that if it was important enough for them to be there, it was important for us to invite them by name. I got into a huge arguement with my mother because she wanted my brother to have an "and guest." I said fine, he could bring a date, but they'd have to be invited by name. She said he didn't know who he would bring, and I said I didn't want just any random person at a wedding my husband and I were footing the bill for.
Long story short, he came by himself and had a great time with family members, and didn't have to worry about his date feeling left out or uncomfortable. And for us, we were surrounded by a room full of people we knew and loved.
In other words, do the right thing and let it go. You don't have to stress about finding a date and keeping them entertained all night and you can just enjoy yourself at the wedding. And your sister doesn't have to worry about you making a fuss over something that's not that big of a deal.
2007-03-23 10:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of different opinions on this one. I see the sense in every one of them though. On one hand, your sister has to pay for this random person, but on the other hand, don't you deserve to have a nice time at your sisters wedding too? I'm having a fair sized wedding in September, and for anyone who wasn't married, I am inviting with a guest. Some people arn't as outgoing as to walk over to another single person and start up a conversation and ask to dance, especially at a wedding. It's not a club! I want everyone to be comfortable, and enjoy themselves, and if that makes it a little more expensive, then it does. At least people will have a good time! :) I think you may just wanna ask your sister casually, while on the topic of the wedding. Maybe she has a reason behind it. Some sites have seating for only a specific amount of guests, maybe her number has reached her max. I can see that one.
Anyways, good luck! :)
2007-03-23 18:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's your sister ask her if it would be alright to bring a date BUT, I would make sure you have a date to bring first. Don't just ask someone because you feel you should have been able to bring somebody. Second are you in the wedding party? Maybe she figures you will have so much to do you won't have time to be with your date, plus if you are sitting at the head table seating could be a bit strange. I'm sure it was an over sight, remember she has enough to think about right now, so bring it up only if you want to bring someone and you feel you can devote time to them.
2007-03-23 09:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are NOT seing anyone...why would she invite you with a guest?
Your sister knows that you are single right now and she followed proper etiquette by inviting you alone. There is no sense in paying $100 for random person that doesn't mean anything to you or your family.
Besides, she may see it as an oportunity for you to socialize with other singles that she is invitating and maybe meet someone special.
Good luck
2007-03-23 09:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way, I am having a wedding an none of my single friends are to bring a date. Many people do not want people they do not know to attend a wedding they are paying for. You have to remember food can get up to 100 or more dollars a person for the event. They you have favors, drink and all the other things for each guest. Plus going single to a wedding gives you an opportunity to meet someone else single and maybe make a connection.
2007-03-23 09:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Etiquette is to only invite a guest if it is a long time gf/bf. Keep in mind she pays per head. It would be rude of you to bring a date. You shouldn't ask her to pay for a stranger. If you want a date, go to a movie, not a wedding.
2007-03-23 09:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should have been given the opportunity to bring a date. My own personal feeling is that anyone over the age of 21 who is not married should be offered the option of bringing a guest.
2007-03-23 10:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
actually no. No matter who you are in relation to the couple - they are only obligated to let you bring a guest if you are engaged, living with or married to someone. It is actually not recommended that brides make acceptions for some family members unless they are willing to make exceptions for everyone as it causes conflict.
2007-03-23 16:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing to consider is how large her wedding is. If it is a smaller wedding, maybe she decided not to allow guests for anyone who wasn't married or in a serious relationship.
2007-03-23 09:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nicholas G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should have at least been asked would you like to bring someone even your best friend if ther is no one you like at the moment,,I would ask your sister is it o.k. to bring a friend even if every thing is booked they could come after the meal.BUT dont let it turn in to an argument ask her nicely saying she must have been to busy and didnt realise that she forgot to put and GUEST.Have agreat day and you never no who you will meet.
2007-03-23 11:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by bubble 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋