Started dating someome recently (about 6 weeks now) and he informed me about 3 dates in that he just isn't over his ex. We talked and decided to keeping getting to know each other as we have a connection and a lot of fun together. Things are really good between us other than I know he still wishes his ex hadn't left him. I know he likes me but the ex still has his heart. What do I do?
2007-03-23 09:16:36 · 22 answers · asked by Blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be his friend, try not to get deep feelings for him just be there for him. ya never know, things might just develop from that, just take care of your heart so it doesn't get broken...
2007-03-23 09:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...if you're beginning to have strong feelings for him I would try to cool off until he has had time to get over his ex. The last thing you want is to always be worrying that he's thinking of the ex or is wanting to be with her. If you can deal with just hanging out with him and just having fun, then go for it. Maybe this could turn into something more. If anything, you've gained a friendship out of it.
2007-03-23 09:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can allow yourself to enjoy whatever is going on within the relationship without "Expectation," go for it and have fun. If you cannot, you better bail before the water gets any deeper. I am a male with alittle experience, and if he is not over his ex, personally, I do not think he is very much into you, other than sexually.
2007-03-23 09:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by MeanderingMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain his friend if you wish, but I think it would be a good idea if you stopped dating him. He shouldn't be investing into any kind of romantic relationship right now anyway. He's just going to end up hurting the other person.
He needs time to get over his past.
2007-03-23 09:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Keep hanging out with him and let him get over it on his own time. Eventually he will see that he really likes hanging out with you and doesn't think about his ex as much. It could turn into something. That is how I bonded with my soon to be husband.
2007-03-23 09:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by shedevilnotunknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfuly, Walk lightly with your head in the clouds, and do NOT fall for this person, untill they have resolved this.
Keep your distance, and chain your heart to a mental fence, that you do not Cross.
in this instance be involved, but do not GET involved, rubber bullets have a tendancy to bounce off, especialy when you shoot at a moving target!!
and if Sex is involved, slack off it alittle bit and see what happens, it may open the other person up, to what they HAVE, not what they HAD!
2007-03-23 10:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by World of Controversy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are going to end up getting hurt I would walk away from this situation. It kinda seems like like you are the rebound girl. If you are okay with that then keep being his friend and keep getting to know one another
2007-03-23 09:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. What you don't want to do is get angry or jealous. It is a lot harder for guys to get over girls then it is for girls to get over guys. Im not saying anything against women it's just he way it normally is. Give him time after awhile he will think of her less and less each day and about you more and more each day.
2007-03-23 09:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-23 09:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by masija420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how he feels I had to go through something like that and I felt it was nice when some one made me feel special its just nice for a dude for a change to get some help ethen though they wont edmit it so try that! hope it helped. piece out
2007-03-23 09:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by xela 332 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient, if you really like um, then be a friend, just like any other friend, then when they indicate they think they are over the ex. you'll already have a good bond. hell by then you may not want it to be anything more anyway.
2007-03-23 09:21:11 · answer #11 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋