Ok, I've answered a lot of questions and I'd like to think that I've helped a few people. But now it's my turn to ask something.
It's something that's been an enemy of mine.
When you've been hurt and used a lot, how do you find it within
yourself to love again? I'm not talking about some simple hurt, like a G/F dumped me for another guy. I mean things like finding out my daughter's not mine and her mother had 5 abortions that were mine while we were dating but strung me along. Then later said she didn't need any more kids and gave the one who wasn't mine away for adoption.
The one woman who I really reached in all things, years later, died of cancer, then her sister tried to come on to me while I was vulnerable, and confused, and played me for as long as she could. I'm not an innocent. But I think my judgement must
be impaired. I'm a user magnet it seems.I don't want to be
hard and unfeeling. How do you know who to love?
If I do happen to find someone decent,how can I trust?
2007-03-23 09:16:01 · 5 answers · asked by redman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have been through a great deal.
The best advice I can give you is to learn to love yourself first. That means looking inward to find out who you really are and then feeling good about that person.
You must also make sure you have adequately gone through your grief for the woman who died. That takes alot of time and tears.
There are support groups that can help you through these things. Seek them out. Do not look for love before you are whole. You will not recognize real love until you see it in yourself.
My prayers are with you.
2007-03-23 09:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn men! After all you been through. I say your a strong man. Some just kill themselves experiencing your situation, others just dropped dead. You've been down. Your only way is up. To move on, you must forget the past, forgive the past and learn from it. You must still trust or it will eat you up. The next lady in your life will deserve the best in you. She'll give you the best too.
2007-03-23 09:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by hygrade4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry!! i've often wondered that exact question.. although i've been through different situations than you, i'm only 14... and i've been through so much unbearable things with guys. I was asked out yesterday by someone and i said no, guys are all cocky jerks who will never take me seriously and always and forever use me.. i hate them.... for what ONE stupid @$$ did to me.
but if you can't get through this, there sure as hell isn't any hope for the rest of us.
best of wishes sent your way.
love always.... Britt
2007-03-23 09:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Britt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardness things in life is to forgive those that have hurt you, before you let yourself love again you need to forgive the one that hurt you, and realize that not everyone is the same.Life is like a game of spin the bottle to keep spinning it till it points to the one you truly want to kiss...
2007-03-23 09:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u have very bad luck if thats the case :( srry. and I dont think anyone can help with that except a psychiatrist
2007-03-23 09:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brajan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋