My mom is always on me about something. Either my homework isn't done, my room isn't clean, my hair is tangled. How can I tell her to just back off. I can't take it anymore! I have tried to tell her that if she wasn't always on me, then I would actually do it. But, she doesn't listen. What should I do?
2007-03-23 09:12:53 · 15 answers · asked by ♥MCR_FOREVER!♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-03-23 09:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're at a very tough age for both you and your Mom. My daughter and I went through it also. You get on each other's nerves, pick at one another because everything each of you do annoys the other and it turns into absolute CHAOS! Listen, simple remedy. Be responsible, take care of the things you know you should, help Mom out if she needs, and have respect! I can promise you, If you go about things in a friendly way and show respect to your Mother (who has your respect coming), she in turn will not be so aggravated and will show respect and kindness back to you. Together is how you will have to get through these tough years. There's no other way if you want to keep a good relationship and strong friendship with your Mom. Lose any attitude you are expressing with her and she will lose any attitude she is showing you. It works. Somebody has to start it going on the right track. Why not you? Enjoy your teens and your family!
2007-03-23 09:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most moms are only over protective out of love. How old are you? If you are under 16, she needs to still be in your face until you are mature enough to have a little freedom and make a few mistakes. If you are 16 or over, you should sit her down and tell her how much you love her, how you understand that her "hounding" you comes from her love for you, but you need a little space to be yourself. Tell her exactly how you feel when all her comments to you are critical. Then ask her to trust you a little and see that you can do what is expected, really necessary, but in your own time frame. You are going to have to earn her trust. Then gently remind her when she faulters and criticizes that you have an agreement for her to back off a little.
2007-03-23 09:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Julie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this: Would you really do the things she ask if she did back off? Be grateful that you have a mom that does stay on you constantly believe me when i say this; she really does love and care about you. If you think she does not listen maybe it might be that she thinks you do not listen or show her respect. If you want to talk to her about this and how you feel, then do so but with respect and a calm voice.
2007-03-23 10:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by chap1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's my advice.
get your room cleaned up over the weekend, and every day or so, tidy up! that way you won't have a disaster to contend with later.
set yourself a TIME OF DAY every day to get homework done... your mother might faint, but you will be doing this for YOU... and it might help. you won't hve to listen to her harp.
Brush your hair a couple of times a day...
I have two kids....they had a schedule and had to do certain things on certain days. I also had parents, and i had to do chores, as well. It didn't kill me...
When we live with our parents, we live by their rules.
Your mom doesn't expect you to do anything different from other kids
Take care!
2007-03-23 09:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start with shaking off the belief that you must act opposite to what she says. It comes down to what's best for you. If you've picked the right thing to do, whether your mom said the same thing or not, it should be done. It doesn't really matter who said it, what's important is what's right.
2007-03-23 10:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Zizzy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her job as a mother to tell you what to do. If you aren't doing your homework, cleaning your room, or brushing your hair, she's going to tell you to do it. If you want her to back off... then do what you're told. It's not rocket science.
2007-03-23 09:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how it makes you feel if your over 12 she needs to let you be a little but do your home work stay in school who cares what ur room looks like
2007-03-23 09:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had the same problem recently when parents go on at you its because they want something to moan about so they go on at us to do this and tht.. Sit down with ur mum and jst tell her how shes making you feel and tht if she didnt go no at you.. Tht you would do the cleaning and things
2007-03-23 09:20:17 · answer #9 · answered by kimliveshere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reverse pyschology. Start complimenting her on little things whenever you can. She'll get the message.
2007-03-23 09:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat her at her game. Get yourself in order before she has a chance to say something.
2007-03-23 09:18:56 · answer #11 · answered by Kim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋