What can i do?

Question

I always think about weight,i'm very afraid that i look fat and i dont want people thinking that sae thing
i dont know what to do
my bmi , is more on the higher side but normal, but i am a bit mustley [exuse my spelling] and i am very big boned and my family and friends say i look fine but somehow i dont seem to beleive them , what person would actually call a fat person, fat , if you catch my drift :D i dont think i'm attractive to any sex, for that reason and my nose is sorta Huge,which it doesn't realy help since my best friends makefun of it, actually too my face
what shall i do for peace of mind

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Answer 1

Guys love curves, not sticks. Your the one making a deal out of it, not the men!

You have to learn to like yourself before you can think of other people possibly liking you. No one likes their body or thinks they are perfect (sorry besides Paris Hilton). Everyone has some part of their body they dislike. If you want to tone up go excercise and this gives you a better self esteem too which will make you feel better.

Work on your self confidence before you start looking at other people liking you.

Answer 2

Hi there,
I know how you feel, i have struggled with weight problems my entire life, I was a very overweight child/teenager, lost weight, gained afew pounds back, have been bulimic for the past 3 years and go through other forms of disordered eating! I am seeing a counsellor though which is helping a lot. I have a very distorted body image, like you I have always been big boned and at the moment i am at a normalbmi for my height but on the high side and even tho deep down i no i am not huge.. i still feel it. I have never had a boyfriend and I dont think anyone will ever love me or even find me attractive and it makes me feel very depressed at times. But as other people have said...we all have different attributes other than looks and there is probably someone out there who finds us attractive. If you want to know the honest truth about whether or not you need to loose a few pounds, firstly ask yourself...deep down you no the answer best. Try your doc or even go to a weight watchers meeting, apparently they are helpful and you could find out what your goal weight should be. I think you need a self esteem boost...do something that makes you feel good! I am sorry that your friends make fun of your nose but im sue they dont realise how much it hurts your feelings and probably makes you self conscious...loads of beautiful women have larger noses though..its not always a negitive thing!
i hope you feel better soon, i know what it's like!
Best of luck! xxx

Answer 3

Well if you're fit and healthy then your weight doesn't matter. I've known Rugby players who when other people saw them on the street would think they are fat, but these guys can run up and down a field for 80 minutes and hardly be out of breath. Ideal weights and BMI's are just guidlines, just be happy with who you are, as long as your weight doesn't effect your weight doesn't effect your overall health then there isn't a problem. As for your so called big nose, and don't take this the wrong way, send me a picture and i'll tell you what I think, i'm a total stranger, and I promise to give an honest opinion. There are things about ourselves that we all dislike and others that we do like,try to concentrate on your good points, and not dwell on those you consider to be bad. xxxxxx

Answer 4

First of all I'd mention to your friends that it's upsetting when they joke about it. I'm sure they don't mean anything by it, they just don't see it as a problem because you don't show it as a problem. If they don't stop, then they aren't worth having around.

Please don't worry about your weight, the fact you are muscly means you will be be heavier as muscles weigh 3 times more than fat simple as. Just be careful about what you eat if you are bothered (just dont do any stupid crash diets or you'll put the weight on twice as fast).

As for other people, if they decide to judge you on how you look, they're the stupid immature ones, people who you don't need around you and so they're not worth it, leave them to their own devices as I can assure you, there are PLENTY of other people who will see you for what you are! They will love you and acare for you whatever happens. All you have to do is find those people and keep hold of them, it may take a while to find them, but it will be worth the wait.

Good luck with everything!!! x x x

Answer 5

Most people dont even notice a persons weight unless they are extremely obese or extrememly skinny so u have nothing to worry about.
Dont worry about you or friends teasing you about having a big nose. The reason a person makes fun of another is to make themself feel better about the insecurities they have. Im sure there are plenty of things about them that arent perfect and that they dont like. But u dont make fun of them for this and so u can be proud and maintain the fact that u are a better person than them.

Everyone has their insecurities and i dont think u'll find a person who thinks they look as good as can be. Dont be so hard on yourself, im sure there are so many good features that u own. Its all about being comfortable in your own skin and i hope that, one day soon, u will be.

Answer 6

I don't believe that many women are truly happy with their weight or their looks. Everyone is sexually attractive to someone, that's why everyone has such different tastes.
The most important person when it comes to your looks is you. Look at yourself in the mirror and see the good bits, not the bad. You say you have a big nose, but what about all your other features? The eyes are what people notice most, what are they like?
The most attractive thing about a person is their self-confidence and presence. Think of Dawn French.

Answer 7

go for some counselling. you'll be amazed how much it helps to tell a stranger all of this. the way you are thinking now can lead to an eating disorder, so best to sort it out now. best of luck.

Answer 8

Hun, you don't want to go there. i know its hard friends loved ones say you look fine. but inside you don't think so. this is not fun. talk to someone about it. please don't go that fare. (I'm trying to bet anorexia I'm so hungry I'm trying so hard) when life kicks you when your down get back up and say I CAN DO THIS! its not worth it trust me. love your body boys will think your a Hattie=] just don't go there OK i know its hard but its not worth it. you are who you are if others cant love you for that f*ck them. so love your self others will pick up on that..good luck hun.....