ok...is this bad??

Question

Ok i am 14, and my boyfreind is 15. We DO NOT want to have sex, we have made this clear, but we do have phone sex, and we do talk about if we were married and how we would have sex. I feel so bad after we talk about this. We are trying to stop!! I am sure ALOT of teen talk about this, What are some ways to stop??? Is this Bad??

Answer 1

It's not bad, but if you feel bad afterwards, just don't do it. You don't need to do it, so don't do it. You have other things you can do.

Answer 2

Okay for one you are on a road to teen pregnancy if u don't slow your roll W..A...Y.. down. I started having sex at 15 & now I'm 21, married & just had a baby who's 4 months old. I've had to watch a lot of my friends make the same mistake but weren't so lucky to marry or stay with the baby's daddy. It's hard very hard, so just think about what u would do because the next step is sex, slow down & enjoy friends & family. Enjoy being young, & don't tie yourself down too soon. Please, take my advice. good luck sweetie I forgot to add I had my 1st daughter when I was 17. so take it from experience, & don't let people judge u people don't know your situation until they are in it.

Answer 3

Yes, it's bad. I applaud your decision not to have sex, especially at your ages. However, you are getting as close to the line as you can without crossing. The safer alternative is to stay further from the line you don't want to cross. If you can't control the direction your phone calls go, you need to make an agreement together not to talk about sex on the phone. Make a consequence that would take effect for the one who starts to talk about sex. Working together you can overcome it! If nothing else works, make sure you are around another person when you are talking to him on the phone. It is worth the effort it takes to keep yourself from ending up somewhere you don't want to be.

Answer 4

I almost can't stop laughing. You guys are 14 and 15.

Now you can tell me I'm wrong but:

You guys are much too young for this. I'm sure I'm not the only one whom will think this. You guys are young and have no real idea what a relationship is. I could not understand why you would possibly be talking about being married or having sex.

I guess kids will be kids. When your young you get to act stupid and still come out of it OK.

As for your question, yes I'm sure lots of teens talk about it. But hey - for the best put that on hold till you get a bit older.

Answer 5

First of all it is good that you have both decided to wait on having sex. However, you are at an age where you are wanting to experiment and hormones are kicking in making you curious about sex. It is not wrong to be curious. You shouldn't feel guilty for talking about it. Just don't do the actual thing. If you feel like you need to discuss it with someone other than him you should try talking to your mom. You would be surprised how understanding she could be about this and I am sure she would rather find out about your curiosity now than after you've done something you regret later.

Answer 6

Its not bad, but its pretty interesting. You two need to find something else to talk about. I remember talking about sex with my boyfriend, but we never had phone sex. Thats pretty unusual. Talk about movies, friends, school, sports... if you two have nothing else to talk about other than sex, then this is a pretty crappy relationship. You need to focus less on the physical and really get to know eachother. What does he want to be when he's older, how is he going to get there? What do you want to be? Where do you want to go to college? Start talking about other things if you want a healthy relationship. Having phone sex does not replace the real deed, and both of those things should wait till you are older.

Answer 7

well... its way less bad than having sex at 14 ;) The only thing that might make it bad is, the more you talk about it the more you wear down your belief that you should wait. As, you will come to want it more. If that is a thought that scares you, then use that thought to help you stop. Good luck.

Answer 8

This is a hard one do to the fact that most people have had phone sex at least once in there life. Both of you have plenty of time to be intimate no need to rush things, but considering what some teenager's are doing lately this is pretty safe.

Answer 9

You are exploring your sexuality in a sense and doing it SAFELY! Horomones are coming into play and this will only increase your curiosity about sex, but it is awesome that the two of you have made a pact to wait.
This kind of talk MAY lead you guys into wanting more, but remember your oath and when you are ready emotionally and physically just be safe! :)

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders...

Good luck! :)

Answer 10

Don't have phone sex and just talk about other stuff or stop seeing each other for a minute then the topic will eventually erode away

Answer 11

I think as long as thats as far as it goes. Then so be it. Thats not to say that I would want my 14 year old daughter or son talking about sex or how they would do it....I would stop talking about it....before something happens.