have been with my bf for 2.5months(i am21,hes24)I am his first GF in 2YRS.I could tell he REALLY liked me in the beginning.he took me to meet his parents and friends and invited me EVERWHERE.About a month ago,he started acting really distant and i started to not see him as much(like 1 time a week).Last weekend,he really opened up to me and told me how his ex cheated on himI had a talk withhim on Monday about how I feel,and how i would like to see him more.he was understanding at first,but then said he wanted space,that hes scared and thinks we are moving too fast!also said that he does really care about me and he isnt going anywhere.He told me he would think about this and call me back.i havent talked to him since.I called him today just to see how he is doing,no pressure,we talked for 30min and then he told me to call him after work cause he wants to meet up(not alone, we'll be with friends) What should i do now? I really want to be with him,ive really thought about it.
2007-03-23 09:03:55 · 7 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he may be telling you the truth about he's scared because his ex cheated on him. but i wonder if he ever cheated on her and didn't tell you about that. maybe he's seeing her again. i had this problem before long time ago w/ a previous b/f. well he ended breaking if off entirely. the next day i found out that he was planning on going to the beach w/ this other girl. but we were like you two. we were always together, talked on the phone and he wanted me to come to see him at work then all of a sudden, bam, he talked to me less, saw me less and i asked what was going on and he told me he needed his space but he loved me. well like i said previously he was cheating on me. he told me stories about his ex cheating on him but i found out later that he cheated on her a few times himself.
2007-03-23 09:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by MISSYT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really tough one! because he was cheated on in the past i would say that he is just scared! try to show him how trustworthy u are, and let his see how much u care about him! be really good to him! maybe u guys are moving to fast- think about it! u have only been together 2.5 mos! that's not very long! slow down if that's what he thinks! everybody needs space- give it to him! don't be one of those clingy gfs! tonight when u guys go out take him aside and talk to him! tell him u respect him and u would never do anything to hurt him!
everything will turn out fine- good luck!
2007-03-23 16:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet with him then. Coming out of a bad relationship can be very difficult and for some people, it damages their ability to trust. He is working through this right now. If you want to be with him, let him know that you will be there for him. He will come around in time.
2007-03-23 16:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. Right now he is in control and is using that to weigh his options. You should not be in that kind of spot, so dump him, make him realize what he gave up, and when he comes crawling back, you decide whether or not to take him back.
Be warned, don't be too harsh in the breakup or you might scar him, and be prepared for him not to come back at all. That's a real possibility.
2007-03-23 16:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH.. he's just not that into you , as far as a harsh break-up if you are not getting what you want out of the relationship and you are the only one giving any effort, well he probably wont be too suprised.
2007-03-23 16:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's scared of the past repeating itself and all you can do is give him time. Just give him time and a bit of space and he should come around.
2007-03-23 16:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is what you really want...then it looks like you are going to have to play by his rules and his timetable
I hope he is being honest with you and not playing games
be cool...
2007-03-23 16:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋