Have you ever had a guy ask you out and then go AWOL for a few weeks? I couldn't go that night, but made certain he knew I was interested. He told me to call him when I was free. I tried a couple of times, but we still haven't gone out. I feel as though he's backed off. Everything was really great the last time we spent time together. Guys help me out here...what did I do?
2007-03-23 09:02:38 · 14 answers · asked by Ms. Gump 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I take night classes. The night he asked me was the class before 2 major exams. I couldn't miss them. I explained that to him.
2007-03-23 09:13:25 · update #1
The thumbs down are not me. I value all your comments.
2007-03-23 09:16:09 · update #2
Now you back off -- give him space -- if he is truly interested he'll be back.
He may have had some special plans for you that night -- so what I would do is this -- give it a couple of days -- do not call him, if he calls by all means - talk to him.
After a few days have passed (3-4) call him with dinner plans of your own. And this is only if you are interested in him.
if not just walk away -- and don't loose sleep -- if he has not found another he will be back>
2007-03-23 09:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Quest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. He may be a really shy, insecure guy. Maybe he took you not being able to go out with him as a sign of rejection. Keep trying to call...but you don't want to get annoying. If he doesn't call you back...maybe it's not the best choice for you after all.
2007-03-23 09:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His ego has probably been shot up a little. Some guys think you have to say "How high?" when they say jump.
Don't sweat it...if he's still interested he'll come around. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes things just work out that way...you certainly can't help it if you had other plans for that night. If he is mature, he will understand.
2007-03-23 09:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, maybe he's been busy with work and stuff. Or he may have met someone else, and is giving that a try. I guess, just give him a call sometime soon and the ball is in his court. You didn't do anything wrong, so if he shys away something is up with him.
2007-03-23 09:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are sensitive creatures no matter how hard they try to be tough. Even though you tried to make sure he knew you were interested, he could have felt a little rejection and is having a hard time dealing with it. Keep talking to him and dropping little hints you'd like to spend time with him, without being too persistent, it might just take a little time for him to get his pride back.
2007-03-23 09:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most of us guys have so much patience in waiting and we only could go so long with the waiting game or waiting for a girl to get back to us so we try to do something to keep our minds occupied during this time - it ain't you, we guys want to keep our active sex life active while we are young.
2007-03-23 09:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by 12-07-1941 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing maybee hes just not free at the time....
but maybee he was really really looking forward to going and you backed out for something else, and he got really sad
i mean i would
and i would be kinda mad/frustrated with the girl but he should be wanting to go out again sometime
he just needed some time to cool off or just watever
2007-03-23 09:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably thought that you weren't interested and were trying to be nice. Try talking to him again. It may take a little bit for him to realize that you weren't blowing him off.
2007-03-23 09:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are coming on too needy already...he doens't want that..he is just messing with you for a one night stand. He probably has 10 girls lined up and cant fit you into his schedule
2007-03-23 09:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing- he may be just immature, found someone else and is too chicken to to tell you, so he's avoiding you. Do yourself a favor and find someone who will actually be around and want to do things with you.
2007-03-23 09:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋