She told me so I broke things off with her and we are both devastated...she really wants to be back together and says it all happened because i didnt like her sister, and this guy she hooked up with did like her sister. She also said that it was a huge mistake and she regrets it. That i gave her ammo to go out and expore what else is out there...i just dont get it...how could she love me, like she says she still does, and go do something so premeditated, sober...she basically had a fling for a whole week...claims just kissing and im trying to believe that...Maybe its age or inexperience??...she just turned 24 and im 28. What should i do!!!
2007-03-23 08:59:33 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go on the Jerry Springer show!
2007-03-23 09:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should move on. The whole "you don't like my sister, but he did" excuse is just lame. If she found this to be that big an issue in your relationship that she thought she should be seeing someone else, she should have talked it over with you or broke things off with you or something. She may genuinely regret what she did, but she did do it, she did it while you were having surgery, and she did it for a WEEK. Even if it was just kissing, the length of time makes it not acceptable - a week of this makes it seem to me that this guy was practically becoming her new boyfriend.
Her only saving grace in this situation, as far as I can tell, is that she did tell you about it, rather than lying about it - although maybe she only told you because you seemed suspicious that something had happened? She may genuinely regret having done what she did, but there could be several reasons for her regret. It's possible that she might have actually realized that she loves you, although I'm not really sure why that wouldn't have occurred to her during her week with the other guy. Another possibility is that things haven't worked out with the other guy either, and now she's upset because she has no one. Finally, it could be that she's feeling really guilty (which does not mean that she neccessarily does love you), and she wants you to make her feel better by saying that it was all okay and you'll take her back - which would just be selfish.
Granted, I don't know all the details of this, but it really seems to me that she's not worth it.
2007-03-23 09:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given her age I would doubt that just "kissing" was going on. Let's be honest, at that age, nobody has a week-long fling and just kisses. The "you don't like my sister" is probably the most ridiculous thing I have heard in a long time. Since when did her sister matter? What's next... "you don't like Grey's Anatomy, so I have been banging my dog trainer for a week"? Ditch the girl and move on. You should stop all communication with her to make things easier until you have completely gotten over her. "You don't like my sister" is going in my quotebook.
2007-03-23 09:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by holbrpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is chilly, for the time of surgical operation? 24 is a grown woman, she could understand. And her blaming her sister? you're relationship her, no longer the sister, it is going to no longer count. as long as you could save it civilized once you're around the sister, she wouldn't have a concern with it. the two way, this is not any grounds to spend a week with yet another guy. looks like she needed to "come across" and purely used her sister as an excuse to no longer sense in charge approximately it. Then while she found out, you have been the good guy she desires to get you decrease back. do no longer take her decrease back, and in case you do, could make her wait a on an analogous time as and teach she merits yet another risk, yet as quickly as a cheater, continuously a cheater. and by using surgical operation??? Nah.. she could have been in the scientific institution with a teddy undergo, no longer hooking up with some dude.
2016-12-15 07:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by livesay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go out with her. She'll only do it again and maybe even something worse. Move on, you sound like a really great guy. I know that its hard but trust me moving on is the best. You can be with any other person you want to be. I know it sounds weird and everything but its true. Now its your turn to be happy. Go for it.
Good Luck
Courtney
2007-03-23 09:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have already answered ur own question! what she did was premeditated! she new she was gonna do it and she did it anyways behind ur back- while u were having surgery! that's pretty low if u ask me! she should have thought about how she would be devistated when she was cheating on u in the first place! go and find someone who is trustworthy and who won't disrespect u the way she did!
Good luck- ull find someone alot better!
2007-03-23 09:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lollipop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. Whether or not she is lying is irrelevent. She was with another man. You need to put it and her past you and move on or you will be facing this again. I promise.
Reasons are just excuses, there will always be a fountain of them from which to draw, she will never run out.
Actions are all that matter in a relationship, which you do not have.
2007-03-23 09:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things like this happen to relationships which help us realize how important (or not) people and our relationships with them are to us
She needed it to realize it is you she really wants and you needed it to perhaps re-evaluate your relationship with her (and your thoughts on her sister).
There only two things these events can result in:
1) You either break up because it was not meant to be and move on with someone else.
2) You get back together and strengthen your relationship.
Best,
G
2007-03-23 09:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely forget about her. First off, you mentioed sober. I am an Irishman who can drink more than 99 out of a 100 people and have been more drunk than most of you and never though of cheating on my girlfriend so being drunk is never an excuse. No one who is in love can cheat. Its that simple. She did not love you and cheated on you but just wants to be in a relationship. FORGET HER!!
2007-03-23 09:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Relax Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so she was with him because he liked her sister and you didn't? Thats a sorry excuse...
You can try to work it out, but you will not be able to trust her. Once trust is broken, it is VERY hard to earn it back. At least for me it is....
She said just kissing?And you believe that ??I don't believe it is age or inexperience.
It is called cheating!!
Good luck!
2007-03-23 09:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by alli224 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her behind and move on. it's not your fault there was an issue with her sister and you didn't give her ammo to go out. sounds like she's trying to blame you for her mistake. at 24 you should be more mature then to cheat because you didn't like her sister!
2007-03-23 09:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋