I met this guy back in Nov. and within days I met his kid. Not long after that he introduced me to the baby's mother (they had never been married)and for the most part she was really nice to me. But then she started started callin at odd hours tryin to cry on his shoulder because her boyfriend left her or because her friend moved far away. I told my b/f that if our relationship was to grow that that crap had to stop, and it did. By Jan. we got our own place, the ex was still being nice to my face. But then she started saying (behind my back) that she didn't trust me with her baby (because I don't have a baby, therefore I don't know how to take care of one) and if my b/f left his kid alone with me that she would take him away. And all this from the girl who takes an infant to a bar! My b/f doesn't want to tell her to **** off because she has relatives working for the state. She is making me feel like I'm in a dead end situation. Anyones opinion would be welcome.
2007-03-23 08:56:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not nice to add but the kid says my name and talks to me all day, but she called up yesterday to say she thinks he has some kind of probelm cause he never calls her mom or says any words to her.
2007-03-23 09:13:07 · update #1
I know you might care for him...but do really want a long term relationship with him and his baby's momma? Cause she's going to be in your boyfriends life forever. Is he worth dealing with her for? I'd find somebody with out kids.
2007-03-23 09:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why any female would be with any guy who made a baby with a woman he had no commitment to.
Hint: Making a baby and walking away is KIND OF a big deal, and should be a red flag. Kids who have to grow up with "parents" like these often end up in jail, and always--ALWAYS--have behavior problems because their parents are too busy putting their own wants before the kids' needs. The most important thing children need is being having stable, loving, committed parents. This guy has already screwed up with one kid, why would you even consider letting him do it again?
Your "boyfriend" is a wimp to boot, since he's not willing to go to bat for you. Again, why on earth are you with this guy? He deserves NO ONE. Also, over 80% of couples who shack up, break up.
You get what you settle for, and if this is all you're willing to have, shame on you! This is what women used to be stuck with because they had no options. Aim higher! Read "Ten stupid things women do to mess up their Lives" (free at your local library) if you want ANY chance at making good relationship decisions, and at having a stable life ready for your future children.
Cut your losses. Get rid of him, and really explore how to get the life you want and deserve :)
2007-03-23 09:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by ravenhairedmaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are dating a man with another woman's baby and it is their child. Don't be too hurt by her accusations about you and her child being alone together, she was probably holding onto the fantasy of the perfect family and you came along and dashed those dreams. It isn't you it is her and his interpersonal relationship. Be the better person and in the end you cannot lose.You will ahve a great relationship with your b/f and a good bond with his child, You don't have to be her best friend just try to be empathetic to her situation. To her you probably are the other woman.
2007-03-23 09:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect her wishes as a mother, it is hard for any mother to let someone watch their child alone even in many cases family members. Spend time with his child with him, maybe in the future she will see you take good care of them and will be more relaxed. Unfortunately, when you get with someone who has children, there is most likely going to be problems.
2007-03-23 09:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely does he think of the international of her? of course he does, yet what i mean does he get all offensive once you attempt to speak approximately how she treats you? if so than you're able to desire to slap him interior the face and tell him what is going on because of the fact your unlikely to place up with that crap. and then do it to his mom because of the fact she would desire to comprehend. or perchance if violence isn't the respond tell her the way you experience approximately what she is doing to you and then possibly she might cope with you greater advantageous. And with that stupid excuse which you stole her son away, its an excuse it incredibly is all it incredibly is. She does no longer think of that the queen of england is sweet sufficient for her son and she or he's likewise fearful of the actuality that yet another woman different than her could make her son chuffed and prefer i pronounced that scares her so possibly attempt to tutor her that your no longer a thief yet somebody who loves her son and then (no ensures) she might permit up slightly, sufficient a minimum of to break by her defenses.
2016-10-01 09:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by barksdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point the only thing you can do is stay out of it. you may have to have your boyfriend tell her to stop calling unless it's an emergency with his child. You don't want to upset the child. And if she doesn't want you to be alone with the child, just respect her wishes just to keep the peace. The last thing you want to do is to get inbetween your boyfriend's relationship with is child.
2007-03-23 09:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report her to children's services for taking her kid in the bar......She has some respect for having a baby
2007-03-23 09:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of where her family works he should be able to have a life. She should have more common sense when it comes to her child. Just try to ignore what she says and does. The more you get pissed the better it will be for her. don't let her know it's getting to you!!
2007-03-23 09:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lock the door before you open it ( if you have the type of lock that lets you open up the door a little bit) and tell her she can't take the kid to the bar if she does you will call the cops
2007-03-23 09:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont pay any attention to her....she just probley thinks that ur gonna take her place with the baby...but let her be she sounds real immature, of course she wouldnt like it if ur man was saying that about hers
2007-03-23 09:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋