he is adopted from russia and has been with her since he was 4 months but he is on a pedastal. He never gets in trouble, hits my 8 month old and when i yell at him for it I get yelled at. He has never been spanked on the bum or on the hand. She does not scold him. her oldest son(my fiance) has recently told me that she will not because she does not want to be one of those moms who scold him for everything and that she doesn't like scolding him because he is not her own. I am going nuts she needs to understand that he cannot hit a 8 month old, her excuse is he doesn't know yet.... She is crazy, How can i let her know that I will not stand for the way he treats my daughter wothout hurting her feelings!
2007-03-23 08:51:52 · 10 answers · asked by Desi R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well the bad news is...theres probably no way you can tell her without hurting her feelings. I wouldn't let anybody hit my 8 month old. I'd tell her that you going to keep the baby away from her and that little boy until she teaches him some manners.
2007-03-23 09:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she adopted him, he is her own. There is punishment that doesn't require spanking. It sounds like he needs a 'quiet' chair for a time-out when he acts like that. If she can't control him now, what will it be like when he's a teenager? Hitting a baby doesn't qualify for 'scolding him for everything'. Hitting can be very serious.
2007-03-23 16:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by sheba 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right now decide that you are the mother of your prescious infant [the bible says love always protects]. she is doing a miserable job raising her kid, i saw another Americam mom with 2 girls from china and they were very spoiled. Tell her part of bringing up children is discipline, they have to know their boundaries--when he goes to school, other kids will hit him because they will not tolerate his actions., then she will be forced to deal with it, but for now your concern is your baby, always keep her with you when you are around them, never ever let her babysit.
i have seen some kids when they think nobody is looking at them, they hit the little ones with force and even bite them. I would be screaming if i were you! but if they come to your house, have your baby in a playpen with everyone around her and seeing what goes on, that way ho harm can come to her, because if you leave the room he will harm her again, guaranteed.
2007-03-23 16:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that in the interest of your daughter's safety, you can no longer bring your daughter to her house. Start physically keeping the two of them apart until she gets the message.
If she adopted him, he's her child. She needs to get over this whole not scolding him "because he is not her own" stuff.
2007-03-23 15:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how someone can adopt a child and then think of him as not being hers.
keep your 8 month away from the kid, because right now it's a dangerous situation.
2007-03-23 16:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let your 8 month old around him and when your m-i-l asks where your daughter is tell her that you won't bring your baby back until her 5 year old understands hitting is not okay. and if she adopted him at 4 months that kid is her's, blood isn't everything!
2007-03-23 15:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most kids that age just need to be explained to why they should or shouldn't do something and most times they will stop. I would explain to him that you don't hit babies because it will hurt them, and ask them a time that they got hurt and didn't like it. Usually just a stern tone of voice will do it. You have to protect your baby.
2007-03-23 20:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it again tell your finance to tell his mother what he is doing if that does not work don't let your baby go any where near him if he comes closer to your baby pick up your baby. if you want to let your baby on the floor buy a little play pen for her and put her in it to keep her away from the horrible little boy
2007-03-23 16:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk 2 ur mother in law and if dat don't work keep her away for awile
2007-03-23 16:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by hardcore_and_crazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you have your fiance tell her that if she doesn't do something about the child hitting your child, you all will not be able to come around when he is there. It is you and your fiance's responsibility to keep your child safe... and she needs to know that is why you just can't allow it. Good luck... that is a tough one!
2007-03-23 15:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋