My boyfriend invited me out to his mother's birthday dinner the other night and I want to send her a thank you card for having me. We've met before, he and I have been friends for years and we would bump into each other frequently, but this was the first time I had been introduced as his girlfriend so etiquitte is very important. I have no way to contact the grandmother who paid and I really don't want to apear stuffy or snooty, but I want to let them know that the gesture was appreciated.
Dear Name,
Thank you so much for letting me be a part of your birthday festivities the other night. It was wonderful to meet everyone again and to have such a wonderful dinner. I think tiramisu may be my new favorite dessert! Please send my thanks and love to your mother for dinner, it was very much appreciated.
Many thanks,
Me
I thought about saying, "Now I know where Blank get his kindness and sense of humor from!", but I figured that would be too much. Thoughts or suggestions?
2007-03-23 08:49:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I love the family and according to him (and by all evidence) they love me as well. Their really isn't any apparent wierdness, although in name I would probably not be the ideal mate for their son. Divorced (in the final stages) single mom......but his mother asked to see pictures of my son as well and said that next time I came over she wanted to meet him. Grandmother said I was a keeper and mother bought me shoes today.
2007-03-23 09:12:49 · update #1
I think everything on the thank you card is great, the only thing I object to is the part you already thought would be too much about "Now I know where blank gets his kindness and sense of humor from!" that part just seems like you are sucking up a teensy bit too much (even if you meant it sincerely, no offense!) the note is meant to show genuine appreciation and thanks and so you don't want them to think that you are just sending it to get on their good side. Other than that, I think it's wonderful!
2007-03-23 10:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is an akward stage right now. Perhaps, go for lunch or coffee or mention again the next time there is an outing and they are there. I think it is very considerate that you are thinking of that, but at the same time if I was the parent I would think you were really trying to kiss but. Some families like that others don't. It is your call; the letter does sound good though I woudln't add anything else if you decide to send.
2007-03-23 16:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending the thank you card is a very nice gesture... What you wrote initially is perfect. Go with you gut and leave off that last line though, it's a bit much.
You sound like a lovely, classy lady. I am sure you have made a great impression on the family. From reading your added details it would seem you are doing just fine with his family . Good Luck.
2007-03-23 20:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds wonderful. That last line would be at your discretion, but I think it is a nice personal touch.
On a different note. It is so refreshing to see that people have not lost their sense of proper etiquette.
2007-03-23 16:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by James G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a little too much (for now) odds are your boyfriend's family feels a little "odd" about you two being "together" after all you were friends for a long time
2007-03-23 16:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by girl_of_your_dreams_1331 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done very well. Send it just the way you wrote it here. If I were_______Blanks mother I would find you charming.
2007-03-23 22:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds perfect to me! i also have a really hard time thinking of things to write in thank you cards with out sounding weird.
2007-03-23 15:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by ccbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋