i cant stand..?

Question

i m living with my family and i cant stand my elder sister. she shouts crazily and loudly whenever she cant have somethng (if you dont give her what she wants, she begins to shout madly), she lies so often, steals my clothes, underwears, money, etc., she treats badly to my parents, she has illlegal relationships and bad friends, she is unemployment, etc. she is 31 year old !

today i realized she had stolen some things from my room again. i cant stand all these any longer ! i lock the cupboards, wardrobes because of her for a long time, but i cant be a bodyguard of a room, 24h/7 day whole year ! my nerves ruined completely !

i m student and i cant move another flat for economic problems. i really dont know what to do. my parents give me right. they say they coudlnt find any solution about her. i m under stress at home.

all these continue for years and it has begun to damage more.i feel incredibly hopeless.i m about to lose my mind.

any idea ? :(

tnx for reading..

she wants to use the computer, that is why i cant lock the door all the time.
i dotn think my parents will kick her out anyway. they are soft hearted..

Answer 1

I'm 13, and I have a messed up older brother like your sister and once he got a job, he stopped messing with me so much. He still does, but he has slowed down.

Your sis, does NOT need a job. She NEEDS to be in jail. Record all of these situations and report her to the police. She is getting out of hand.

Whatever you do, DON'T LET HER TRY TO TALK HER WAY OUT!

Don't feel bad if she gets in jail. She is a grown woman, and you are a (minor?) student. You have to be totally focused on school, and you do NOT want anyone giving you extra stress. School is crazy important. I can already tell that your sister probably didn't get a good education. If she had, she would not be living with her parents.

My brother is the same. Click on my profile and e-mail me. We can chat about them if you need further help.


-Spontania

Answer 2

I think your parents have to show "tough love" and move this 31 yr. old out of their house.It's way past that time. She needs to grow up and maybe if they tell her to leave she will.Really they are just enabling her to carry on the way she is by doing nothing about it.She won't change untii they do.
You should not have to worry about your personal belongings in your own home. Put a good lock on your door.
Obviously she has no respect for any of you or she would not behave this way.She's acting like a spoiled child.
Furthermore you must all be stressed to the max.
Talk with your parentsand try to get them to realize they have to get her out of your home.
She will make out just fine as she'll find someone else to use and abuse.Or God willing.........she'll grow up and become a 31 yr. old adult.
I wish you all good luck


She can use the computer when you're at home.That is no excuse for her.

Answer 3

have your parents kick her out...at 31 she should be able to make it on her own.
put a deadbolt lock on your bedroom door and lock it at all times...at least she won't be able to get into your room if you are not there or don't want her in.

be cool...

Answer 4

if she's stealing call the police or have someone call for you.