My bf of 3 yrs made me mad 1 day so I went onto his cell phone acct. to see who he had been calling...there was a # on there i didnt know, that he was calling everyday multiple times a day, so the nxt time i seen him i called the number from his phone and hung up so she called back and he silenced his phone when i asked him who it was he said his sis friend that just calls him when she is fighting with her boyfriend and would nt let me see the phone.I had already found out her name and i had never heard of her b4, so when he said he only talks to her when she calls him i knew that was a lie so i blew up and starting yelling and asking what was going on and why he felt he needed to hide this girl that he talks to all the time from me it was a huge fight and hes now mad & said i over reacted and he never talked about her because she is nt important. but he talks to her all the time so i just dont understand even if they are just best friends then why do i not even know at least her nam
2007-03-23 08:36:09 · 17 answers · asked by T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's hiding something from you, and not only that. The classic sign is that HE is mad at you. If he turns it around to make YOU look like the one who has the problem, the focus will be off him.
Instead of wasting time trying to get him to come clean, you are going to have to do some detective work to find out what's really happening. When you have proof, you can confront him then. At this point, you only have a number and a story from him. You need more than that. On the off chance that he's telling the truth, you have to give him 'innocent until proven guilty' but you do have enough to go on now to try to 'prove' that guilt.
2007-03-23 08:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't over react. I would say to trust your instincts on this, if you know for a fact that he talks to her daily and yet you have never heard of her means that he doesn't want you to know about her. And if he doesn't want you to know about her, what exactly is he trying to keep from you? Often times, cheaters will try to turn the tables by getting angry and defensive at nearly getting caught, hoping that you'll drop your investigation. There is more to this, if you let it go, it's because you really don't want to know the truth.
2007-03-23 08:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are over reacting, but calm down. even though it sounds like he is doing something fishy, if he hasnt done anything like this before, then try talking to him about it. if he fails or you can tell he's lying, then maybe you should try talking to her. i know you probably dont want to talk to her, but sometimes it's better to. my friend got suspicious one time, but it turned out that he was just with one of his friends, who was a girl, planning a suprise for her. haven't you ever talked to any of your guy friends to help you about a problem with him? then, if he really was cheating, i wouldn't give him a second chance!
2007-03-23 08:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jaded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my personal opinion you should keep an eye on your boyfriend to determine if he is cheating at you with another girl and if he is cheating on you just tell him to break up with you. But take time to find another boyfriend that really loves you and cares for you and of course you'll feel bad when you break up with him if you really loved him, but do so if he is cheating on you. Good Luck!!! I hope you are ok.
2007-03-23 08:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by FireStone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
T: Your boyfriend appears to have gone out of his way to conceal this particular caller from you. I'm with you "WHY?" I think you reacted appropriately and it appears that you gave him an opportunity to explain her away....I certainly can relate to your anger and he needs to come clean with you. Something doesn't smell right.
2007-03-23 08:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's hiding something.
Do yourself a favor and leave him. You can't trust him now anyway.
2007-03-23 08:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun, sounds like he has something to hide. obviously you know what is already true and he has lied about that, so, take it from there.
find someone else.
2007-03-23 08:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by torn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he feels the need to hid conversations about a girl from you something fishy is going on
2007-03-23 08:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you definitely didn't overreact, I would have even slapped him. I think that is waaay too suspicious to be anything other than he is cheating on you. I'm sorry. =(
2007-03-23 08:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by darlingdaisy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should talk to him seriously, and get to know dis gurl. Find out what that gurl means to him.
2007-03-23 08:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by .:*~La Brown Eyes~*:. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋