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I'm 23 and this past summer my church's young adults group studied the book of Philippians where I felt the right hand of God moving my heart to serve within Central Asia (where I happen to have several friends serving already). My one frined Dinara (from Kyrgyzstan) who is incharge of a summer camp asked if I would be willing to help out with that since I have a passion for Central Asia as this would be good starting point. There is 1 problem though, my mom doesn't support or accept such a trip as she claims that would hurt my family (though she's the only one making such a claim) and that our family business which I work at needs me more but yet she always pushes for me to go out and get a real job and move out on my own. I don't know what to do though, I don't want to hurt my mom but yet I feel lead to serve the summer camp? Any scripture that might help me as my mom keeps bringing up scripture that says you must honor and obey you your parents and I can't seem to win against that?

2007-03-23 08:36:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

In no way am I using this as an excuess to get visit my friends or get out of my parents lives. I honestly feel lead to go into missions full time, I'm considering studding Russian at the American University of Central Asia in Bishkek and then go from there, possible going on to study government and trying my hands at that.

2007-03-23 08:43:06 · update #1

Additional note from what cj said, no, I'm not having my parents fit the bill for me. I mean listen yes I am living at home but it's mainly due to the fact I don't have the money to be on my own. Although God brought an oppertunity for me to live with a friend of mine who is in a wheelchair and what do you know I could get paid to be his personal helper.

2007-03-23 09:03:27 · update #2

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You are legally an adult, and can do whatever you wish. There is a vast difference between honoring your parents and being tied to your mother's apron strings for the rest of your life. It is natural for children to move out and leave their parents. If you're getting a chance to travel to another area and do something that would give you great satisfaction, then go for it. Your mother may be upset at first, but she'll get over it. She needs a reality check. Children grow up and leave home, and that's just how life works. As for Scripture, I can't remember the passage, but there's the verse about putting away the things of a child and becoming a man. Also, Christ made a statement about leaving your mother and father and following Him. In short, don't waste your life by allowing your mother to run it. It's your life. Not hers.

2007-03-23 08:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by solarius 7 · 1 0

You didn't say are you expecting your parents to foot the bill for your summer camp or pay your bills while you are not working? If so, I think you need to grow up and skip the trip until you can pay for it yourself. Your way too old to expect your parents to still pay your way even if it is church related. Surly if this is the case you are not trying to put the "But it is for a good cause", guilt trip on your mom in order to get your way, are you?

If not, then you have the right to go if you want, but don't expect your parents to hold your job open for you until you get back.

2007-03-23 08:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by cj 4 · 0 0

No, the scripture does not say honor and obey, just honor. You should respect your parents and treat them well, but hon, this is your life, not your mother's.

Do what God has called you to do and give your mother as much love and reassurance as you can before you go. I know it's a harsh verse, but remember the one where Jesus said that in order to be His disciple, you must despise (walk away from) your mother and father? In your case, this is the verse to hold on to.

2007-03-23 08:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 1 0

1 Timothy 4:12 immediately came to mind, I'm not sure it will help with your mom, but you may find it encouraging.

PS Read "Through Gates of Splendor" by Elizabeth Elliot, it's full of scripture about following God's call. Also read the book "Waking the Dead" it's a great pre-mission read.

God Bless

2007-03-23 08:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by All 4 His Glory 3 · 0 0

Jesus says, "leave the burying of the dead to the dead", it is a figure of speech in which he is telling that one person and those others interested in following Him, to leave it all and serve Him. St. Francis of Assisi, did the same, he left his business, against his father's will and dropped everything including the clothes on his back, to serve God. When asked, why did you do this, he exclaimed with all Truth behind him, "my Father is in heaven and He is whom I must listen to".
It depends on you and how radically you wnat to follow this calling, scripture helps, but your heart will lead you places and answers that are much better.
God bless and good luck.

2007-03-23 08:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Perhaps I love you more 4 · 1 0

I just suggest simply talking it out with your mom, possibly try attending a good Bible college to further your understanding.
God Bless and GO BRONCOS!
In Christ,
#1denverfan
In memory of Darrent Williams and Damien Nash

2007-03-23 08:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by #1denverfan 3 · 0 0

If you truly felt the hand of God you need to respond to his calling. If it is Gods calling your mom should support you and them she might see her business multiply. Yeah you can honor your parents but you must obey God if he is truly number one in your life.

2007-03-23 08:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Commander 6 · 1 0

Here are a few

Matthew 10
7"Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.



Matthew 8
The Cost of Following Jesus
18When Jesus saw the crowd around him, he gave orders to cross to the other side of the lake. 19Then a teacher of the law came to him and said, "Teacher, I will follow you wherever you go."
20Jesus replied, "Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head."

21Another disciple said to him, "Lord, first let me go and bury my father."

22But Jesus told him, "Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead."



Matthew 19
28Jesus said to them, "I tell you the truth, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother[f] or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. 30But many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first.

2007-03-23 09:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Gardener for God(dmd) 7 · 1 0

God will lead and guide you. Don't worry. Just trust and obey!

2007-03-23 08:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by foreverme 3 · 0 0

Don't go to K-stan unless you are there to HELP people, and NOT to pimp jesus like he was a drug!!

2007-03-23 08:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by XX 6 · 0 0

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