should i worrie about it?

Question

i have a boyfriend and he treats me really good and everything is going really well and but he has this ex who he was with and he asked her to marrie him and she said yes but then she cheated on him and has a kid by someone eles so he broke up with her but then she wanted to be friends with benafits and he did not so he told her no then now they are friends and she texts him when she is drunk and calls him and sends him pics of her baby he says they are just friends should i be worried about it??

Answer 1

The FIRST thing you should do is talk to him about it. You're obviously not comfortable with their level of interaction; he should know that. First, however, decide for yourself precisely WHY you're not comfortable about it. That's going to be his first question.

Do you trust this man? Is it that you think he might cave in and cheat with her, or do you just hate to see him harrassed?

Make sure you know which direction you want the conversation to proceed in before you start it. Know whether you want them to cease all contact, or if just think that the current level of contact is excessive.

Whatever happens, let HIM do the tlking to her. She won't get the message if it's you. In fact, she'll redouble her efforts.

All the best!

Answer 2

What you are really asking is should you trust him (we have a clear idea what she is up to).

The fact that seemingly he has hid nothing from you is a good sign. You should talk to him though and make sure he understands that you support him. I would not go as far as casting any dispersion upon his ex as she is the mother of his child and (like it or not) you will have to respect that.

She apparently is going through a destructive period in her life at the moment you can ignore it without any guilt or you may want to befriend and possibly help but please do not get too involved in her story - the one you are interested in his yours and your boyfriends!

Good luck.