i met this girl about 7 months ago, she is canadian but her company sent her to work here in france for a year, anyway when i met her she told me that she has a boyfriend back in canada and they've been together for almost 5 years.
i didn't show her any interest and we started running into each other because we are in the same circle of friends and then we became very close and there was chemistry and so we agreed to become "Friends with benefits" but then we became even closer! and there was so much passion, and then she says she wants to be exclusive and we started dating for a while
at this point she tells me that she wanted to break up with her boyfriend even before we met.
so now she went back to canada to break up with her 5 years boyfriend and she'll be back in a couple of weeks
here's my dilemma:
did she hook up with me just to make it easier for her to break up with her 5 years or was she really interested???? and when she comes back should i give her some space or date her!
2007-03-23 08:21:38 · 6 answers · asked by Slash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She had to go back there because they were living together and she needed to take her stuff out of his place, and you can't end a 5 years relationship with a phone call!!!
but yes, she confessed to have had break-up sex with him!!! and she told me that i can sleep with other girls while she is away!!! God, i feel like a sucker!!!
and she extended her job in france for one more year to be with me, and the reason she wanted to break up with him is that he is 33 and she is 26 and he wants to settle down and have kids and wants to have a traditional family, and that's not what she wants yet...
2007-03-23 08:21:57 · update #1
BE very glad she is honest with you, and enjoy the openness of the relationship, but how would you feel if you were the dude back home? Could be you in a few years...
Go with the flow!
2007-03-23 08:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this really the type of person that you want to be with? What if she comes back and you to are together then she sees someone else who shows interest in her would she then brake up with you for them? Also if she cared about you why would she say its okay to be with someone else while she's gone? I would never give my man that option if I wanted us to be exclusive. Sounds like she is a little immature and doesn't know what she really wants herself.Now the hard part if your really interested in her than date her but, with caution cause you run the risk of being in the other guys shoes if your not care full. Now if she seems like someone that you could have a serious future with than tell her how this made you feel and give her space to decide or give yourself space to decide. Hope this helped.
2007-03-23 08:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by arshaun2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't understand why she has to have a relationship with you b/f she break things off with the boyfriend for 5 years. If she has always been that unhappy with her boyfriend, she should've ended it a long time ago. It doesn't make any sense to me to go through all the issues b/f breaking things off. The big doozy is, she is going to sleep with him b/f breaking it off. What! What in the world are you thinking? And you can sleep with other girls if you want to. No, honey, NO. You need to find your someone else b/c if she does this to a guy for 5 years who say that she won't do the same to you? To me she is playing with yall hearts and that is not fair to the both of you. You as guys need to stand up and not fall for that. I feel you are being played and you just need to move on. It appear to me that nothing will ever be serious with her so why settle for her? She is not ready for commitment so why waste your time with her. It is obvious she is going from bed to bed and that is not safe. I say you need to tell her to lose your number and find someone else to be happy with. I wish you the best of luck with this woman if you choose to stay with her. But my opinion, don't do it. Don't fall for her games b/c it is obvious that is what she is playing!!!!
2007-03-23 08:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a girl is in a relationship for over a long period of time, the girl will discover some stuff from the guy. i mean being with him for 5 years is long. but seeing how he is and acts for 5 years she would actually know what kind of guy he is. but for that long she probobaly didnt like how he is. i mean she was with him for 5 years, and if he wanted to marry her she wouldnt exept it, cuz she knew how her life would be, by the 5 year of relationship. and by seeing u it was different. she probobaly like something specail in you that didnt want to let go that she didnt see it in her other guy. so basically she got tired from the 5 year relationship, and wanted u. that something made her interested in you. that you had this thing she like and wanted it. and didnt want to let it go. but i am 100% that she didnt do that to make it easier for her to break up with her 5 years . cuz its not right.. okay hope that helped.
2007-03-23 08:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by ifuzz_101_lana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a casual relationship than go for it. But she said herself that she's not ready for anything serious.
2007-03-23 08:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think she likes you i mean....... if she is not ready for wat her other bf wants then she has the right to leave him for some one else.... i mean if you like her.....then date her when she gets back REALLY!!!!! dont wait cause you might miss your chance......... and if you like her then you dont want that to happen now do you???????
2007-03-23 08:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by hudson_luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋