I have been dating a girl for 6 months and after I met her I went through some very difficult times in my life. She could have ran because the relationship was brand new and I would have understood. She didnt, she was there for me more than my best friend was and I really dont know what I would have done without her. Things calmed down and got better for me and now I am just not into this relationship. I am eternally grateful that she was their for me and I could be friends with her forever becuase of it. But I am not feeling it now and I can tell that she really is. Now I find myself feeling obligated becuase of how supportive she was of me. What should I do?
2007-03-23 08:18:33 · 14 answers · asked by GTO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do her any favors she will probably be better off without you
2007-03-23 08:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you have a great thing going along with her. You might probably want to think again about breaking up with her. Do you want to let go just because you dont "feel it"? I mean, these feelings might come and go, but its reaaaly very hard to find a person who truly cares about you and stands by you at all times, are you sure you want to give that up? The best thing is to find someone who can also be your best friend. It looks like you have found that. Attraction is a phase - relationship could be for a lifetime. Or if you want to really breakup you should talk this through with her, and assure her that you will be her friend.
The best reason for a break up should be either you don't like the person or theres some concrete problem which can be resolved ONLY if you put an end to the relationship.
So i think this could deserve another shot..
[ Im telling this coz I've been there.]
Hope I helped.
2007-03-23 08:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by pingpong 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, u cant force to fall in love and i kno its pretty hard to break up with a girl whos been there for u thru hard times. Use those break up lines:
take her to the beach and walk along the shorelines. Then start to say. We been together for 6 months. U have been there for me throu my hardest times like a friend. I wouldn't have gone thru that phase without u. I'm grateful that u stood by ma side. The first time i met u, i felt in love with u. i really felt that energy between us when we got together but now, the relationship seems to gettin a little down. Im not feelin this anymore. I wanna be just friends. And its not u, its me. It all my problem and ma fault. I feel so wrong. I think we just need some space between us. But i truly i want to still be friends. ur a sweet and pretty girl and i kno there are alot of guys out there that wants to meet and all that. u understand. I feel so sorry. Please forgive me. I still love u with all ma heart as a friend and whenever u need me, girl id be there for u.
2007-03-23 08:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by ohitsyou(= 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This girl have been there for you man, and this is the way to return it back to her? People would give up anything just to find someone who cares enough about them just to say hi, and you want to break up with someone who did nothing but support you.
Anyways, If you really think this isn't going to work out, just tell her you want to be friends with her or something..... This will break her heart (am already feeling sorry for her), but at least a million times better than keep her hoping around you.
2007-03-23 08:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and tell her how u feel. u cant be in a relationship that you feel nothing for. it might hurt her at the beginning but she has to be strong and get over it. everything happens for a reason. better you guys break up now then a year down the road. be there for her, let her know you care. but u cant stay in a relationship that you KNOW is not going anywhere.
I wish the best for both of you and hope you guys make the right choice.
Good Luck :)
2007-03-23 08:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by ~* 3 Months Prego*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is hard but you need to be man enough to confront this with care.
What is it about the relationship that is making you want to break it up?
If you are as grateful as you say you need to talk to her and be honest. The longer you take to deal with it the worse she will feel when she finds out. I know this is hard but the only way to solve it is to communicate and see if anything can be done to work it out to where you are both on the same page.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 08:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya dog. I mean, why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who supports you when you're down? Now that you're back on top of things, just kick her to the curb like the real man you are.
Sigh.
2007-03-23 08:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Fee_Slice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel about it....what else can you do?
At the end of the day, she may be hurt and upset with you but you have to do whats best for you ALWAYS! Whats the point if ur unhappy and always trying to appease someone else? Unless you are married and have children or 98 yrs old...then you need to be totally honest with her and yourself!
2007-03-23 08:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by MockingBird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her, I am sure she would't appreciate you staying with her just because you feel gratitude toward her. Tell her what you said here, that you care for her but maybe you are just meant to be friends, and be prepared to give her time to get over you or understand that she may not want to be friends. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by ad121ana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...talk with her seriously partner...cause if you don't start talking with her soon here dude?...you're actually gonna be creating more trouble for her then she deserves really. Be fare and honest with her reasonably. Her heart's gonna be broken here either way.The truth hurts less then lies do partner...so go easy and be kind to her always...even if she's being let go. Too often we men get labeled as scoundrels and cheats and low life scum when we as men end relationships dude. Try not to end it dramatically...OK?
2007-03-23 09:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, it is cruel to string her along. It has only been 6 months, that really isn't that long of a time period, she might not be as traumatized as you think.
2007-03-23 08:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋