Considering you have one already, he doesnt wany anymore. I want another one but he is so stubborn. So question is have u had that problem? DId u manage to get pregnant again? Im not on birth control or anything and we do have unprotected sex but he's careful about where he does his bussiness. Im just wondering what are the odds of getting pregnant or did u get pregnant? I just want my son to have a little brother or a sister. He is 2 and im 23 and my husband is 24. Any suggestions?
2007-03-23 08:16:46 · 14 answers · asked by sourgirl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
And by the way im not being deceitful and dont feel sorry for us, we get along great. IF i was being deceitful i would've poked some holes in a condom or pretend i was on birth control. Ive tried talkign to him and its not like i can just get pregnant on my own, thanks
2007-03-23 08:25:48 · update #1
doesnt matter how careful he is being doing his business ,you both are having unprotected sex and you can get pregnant. if he doesnt demand you to be on the pill,seems to me he dont care you get preggers again. just by him withdrawling dont mean you wont get pregnant is my point. you are a young couple. maybe he dont want kids because he couldn't afford it... depends on your living situation.
2007-03-23 08:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I weren't for sure we were done after our 2nd son. We were back and forth. I wanted one - he didn't. But, guess what, we got pregnant (we didn't use any birth control either). Our daughter was born Dec 30, 2006. She is daddy's little girl. We both couldn't be happier and now we are both in agreement that our family is complete. He actually got a vasectomy on 3/16, so we are for sure done now!! It will happen for you sooner or later especially if you're not using birth control. We were careful about where my hubby did his business also - doesn't work. Keep talking to your hubby about it - maybe there' s a reason he feels like he doesn't want anymore????
Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did have this problem with my husband, after my son was born he didn't want anymore kids but I did. My son is now 2 1/2 and I am 15 weeks pregnant. My husband was very excited when we found out we were having another baby. I was worried about how he would take it, but all is well. Good Luck to you!!
2007-03-23 08:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on birth control...getting pregnant at the moment will only cause more stress between you and your husband. He may still be feeling overwhelmed by parenting a young child. It could be he worries about the financial aspects of adding another child to the house. Give him some time. This is something you should both agree on.
2007-03-23 08:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being deceitful is not laying a strong or good foundation for your marriage, so you might get a second child, but your husband may be unhappy and you'll be divorcing soon, so then you'll have two kids and a broken home. Didn't you all discuss this before getting married? Who's the one changing their mind? Why is it that YOU get your way? You have very little respect for your husband and I feel sorry for both of you.
2007-03-23 08:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My relatives had this problem. She wanted one more, he did not. The thing is, I could see how he already wasn't the greatest dad with his child, so I felt like she should relaize that, and not press him to have another. He isn't too close with his daughter and he's sometimes too hard on her for ridiculous things like laughing too loud.
So I thought it would be a mistake for her to press him on the topic, she would just push him away since he's not embracing parenthood to begin with.
Who knows, they may not last forever which is a shame, but they did end up with another one, he finally agrred to it, and he is still basically the same way. He doesn't seem extremely happy with his life, and his kids are great, but I think he feels like poor me. I can't stand that.
My thoughts, you can't really push a person to be a parent. It's hard when you have different things that you want. It's always better to agree before you get married to avoid things like this. You could try to comvince him, but it's not a guarentee. I hope it all works out for you though.
2007-03-23 08:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do if your wanting another child, is have him wear protection, and poke some holes in that protection cover. Wallaa, instant pregnant. That way, you can always say, we were careful. Once he learns your pregnancy, he'll be upset at first, then, as with the baby growing, he'll be happy this happened. Good luck to you.
2007-03-23 08:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he is just young. You have a 2 year old and those can be pretty hard at times. I would wait a year or two before you have another your not in any rush.
Good luck and don't let this hurt your relationship.
2007-03-23 08:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by Wanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend went through that so I guess she sort of trapped him. she had unprotected sex and she got pregnant. she told him she was using birth control but lied. he told her to get an abortion. in the end he was happy about the new baby. now there are 3 kids.
2007-03-23 08:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Eliza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should consider natural family planning and let him be a part of it. it would make for less stressful intimancy. please don't trick your husband into having another child. considering how young you both are, he is likely to decide he wants more children later on. you need to talk about your (and his) feelings and maybe put off making a "permenant" decision until you are a little older.
2007-03-23 08:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋