Who should be the one to take care of getting tubes tied or a vasectomy? If a mother went through FOUR pregnancies, do you really think she should be the one to get her tubes tied? Or do you think the Dad should feel like his wife has endured enough, and since he can't carry children too, this is something he can do to take off her shoulders, since it's a minor surgery, one day thing they can get done in a doctor's office. A women has to go to a hospital for tubal ligation. Shouldn't he suck it up and just DO IT?????
2007-03-23 08:09:48 · 20 answers · asked by nymom 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Great! Thanks for the majority agreeing, I will be showing this to him tonite! And yeah, there ARE other forms, but we've already researched, and for him to do it is the cheapest b/c it's only a one time copay of $100. Pills are $30 a month and have risks. The IUD is like $600 and lasts for 5 years. So it's the best financially& health wise, So I can only come to the conclusion a man wouldn't do it out of silly pride and losing manhood. No guy HAS to, but he really should considering all that women go through. It would show he truly cares and wants to protect his lady:)
2007-03-23 09:02:22 · update #1
Yes! It's not as bad as he may think. Like you said, it's a simple procedure for men that involves a local anestheic and it's done in an hour. Every guy I know has said it's not that bad. For women they have to have major surgery which involves major recovery. So tell him to suck it up and get it done if he still wants to have sex!
2007-03-23 08:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of nine.....We talked for two years before one of us would have it done although in the process of trying to figure it out I had one more child. Now that was a shock. After searching the internet we found out that health wise it would be better for him and it is considered to be an in and out procedure. Where as for the women it is considered to me a surgical procedure where you would have to be put to sleep. The man he is wide awake during this process. My last child was born on 14th he had it done on the 17th. That was three years ago. But remember if you decide to do this it still takes time for his soldiers to leave the camp.....Most men feel that you are taking there man hood from them when they do this. Talking with some of my friends who has had their tubes tide some of them feel inadequate as a woman. I feel you and him should really search the internet and discuss it together what you both find. Don't give him an ultimatum or tell him to suck it up.. If you love each other dearly you should be able to come to a conclusion for the whole matter. Love the fact that my husband did. Our relationship has grown closer than every before. Remember I have 9 (nine) children and I'm 35 yrs old.
2007-03-23 15:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by misseslv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have a vasectomy. It's cheaper and easier. I had my tubes tied, but that was only because I was already numb from childbirth, in the hospital already and what was the point of making my husband go through a surgery when I was already on the table? You know what I mean? If I hadn't done that, though, it would have been him on the table!
2007-03-23 16:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You've done enough and it's his turn to take some of the responsibility. Plus it is safer and cheaper for him to do it than for you. But some men just have a real problem with getting it done. They think it will make them less of a man. Maybe you could get some info from the doctors office about both procedures. If he sees that the risk is higher to you and that it will cost less for him to do it maybe he'll change his mind.
2007-03-23 16:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After I gave birth to our 3 children, my hubby bravely had a vasectomy. A lot of men worry that it will affect their masculinity, but in our experience...there were no ill side effects in the bedroom and very little pain after the surgery. Of course, he still shutters when there is a mention of the needle and I happily remind him that I pushed a 9lb 4oz baby out of a little hole and that a little bitty needle couldn't have been THAT bad....
Anyway, all went well for us and best of all....no bc or condoms and NO WORRIES about whether or not there will be two lines on that little stick!
2007-03-23 15:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by ldlivengood 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully my husband said I had the babies he would get fixed. I think men should. We go through all the pain of being pregnant and having the babies. It takes like 2 days for guys to get back to norm after surgery, quicker than it would be for us. The only reason I think the woman should is if she is having a C Section, they already have her open, so they might as well do it then. Good luck!
2007-03-23 15:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kari B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a personal decision you should make together as a couple. At the time, my husband REFUSED to get a vasectomy, now that I'm in my 50's and going through menopause, he thinks maybe he should get one. I told him its a little late now. I have been on birth control pills since 1972.
2007-03-23 15:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy should be the one to get the vasectomy. The woman has given birth 4 times, now it is time for the guy to do something. We woman cant do everything, and we shouldnt have to. Come on, give us a break!
2007-03-23 15:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by oneradchica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think men should be the ones to get "fixed" because it is safer for them to do so then woman, it is an outpatient procedure, and their healing time is quicker. Also, if for some reason the couple would like to have kids in the future, it is easier for the man to have the procedure reversed.
2007-03-23 15:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly7887 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. A man does nothing to endure the pain of child birth. And besides its nothing bad but a snip and sew for him to have a vesectomy, then its all over with. Whereas women, have to deal with everything, and besides, these days, if you and hubby decides to have more children he can have it reversed. Good luck!
2007-03-23 15:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Moose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋