Meet Brad around 4 months ago through close friends. We became friends, started doing everything together, then about a month ago he kissed me , then after that we go really flirty with each other . Last week after a long night of drinking, he invited me up to his high rise, we ended up having sex. Now I'm confused, I have feelings for him, I want to date him. But I don't know if he feels the same. I don't know if he thinks this is a casual sex thing or what.. help!
2007-03-23 08:08:57 · 19 answers · asked by joans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, considering you aren't dating and aren't in a relationship, then you did have casual sex and he's probably going to treat it as such. If you're seriously interested in having a relationship with this guy, you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If not, move on. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't think you blew it. He obviously likes you. Why would he hang around with you for 4 months, and then later on kiss you if he did not have feelings for you. Has he called you since then. What gives you the impression that he wants casual sex? I think if he wanted casual sex he would have tried to start that up with you four months ago. Has he called you after you both had sex? Whats been his tone of voice?
You also have to realize that you both were drinking as well. That is sometimes an invite for sex. But I feel like there are some obvious feelings here just because of the fact you have been hanging around together for 4 months.
I am thinking since you guys have been friends for 4 months that you should be about to talk to each other about what happened. Just be honest and find out where he stands. Just tell him how close you have felt with him for the past few months, and your just not sure you stand with the whole ordeal last week. Ask him, Are you looking for something serious or are you just looking for a fling. And if he is looking for something serious, go for it. If he says he is not sure, then you tell him you don't think you are going to continue with it.
Either way, at least you will know. Its not too much fun being in limbo, and especially after you did that. I don't think you really made a mistake per se. I think whatever the outcome, you will learn from this experience. Everything we do in life we learn from it.
I would not go to talk to him in a bar about this. I would ask him to go for a coffee with you, because you want to talk about a few things. I would also do this during the day so that you both are not tired or stressed out.
Good luck, but I am predicting something good is going to come out of this one. Let me know!
2007-03-23 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by katisadiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any type of love could be wrong for romance, if somebody is wanting to discover love. It does not propose that is. Or could not exchange into love. There are alot of romantic wish fulls in this international. and there is not something incorrect with that. i think of if mankind replaced into extra type and human beings as a rule have been extra undemanding and being concerned in the direction of surely each physique the desires for romance could be distinctive. i think each physique desires a heat hug and a kiss accepted, that is solid for the soul. possibly the desperate love seekers don't get that for the duration of any respect and are affection starved. we'd desire to be extra compassionate to each physique.
2016-10-19 10:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So ask him where you two stand!! I mean I think that if you really like him and want to be with him on that level than you should try to get him to be more open with you about his feelings! Be prepared for the worse though because he might just want to be friends with benefits!! Be careful girl and be strong!
2007-03-23 08:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda in the same situatio as you. except my bf hookt me up with this really hott cowboy named kerry ginn and she sed she had no problem with it. that was a lie. she did. we had sex on night when he came to see me. and we didnt tell her. still to this day she thinks that we never kisst or fukt. i didnt know what to do but now i do. we broke up lastnite and it felt like the righ thting to do. so just do what you feel is right and talk to ohim about it.
2007-03-23 08:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if ur not sure it aint right .. we all know what alcohol does to u esp. if you been drinking alot ..think about it if u had not been drinking would that have happend? .. now just make him chase u hard .. thats if u really like him ..or u prob just have lust for him .. and make him play your game ..DO NOT PLAY HIS GAME..because you will get hurt ..if u dont like him cut him off ..but if you do make him work .. but chances are its done ...
2007-03-23 08:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls + Drinking = Sex You girls are way too easy, lol. Why do you do that to yourselves i'll never know but keep on doing it ok.
2007-03-23 08:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You went from the potential of being a girlfriend. Now you need to settle in the relationship of being "fvck friends".
Sorry, the ball was in your court and you threw it foul.
2007-03-25 20:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Groovio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you want to date him. If he won't see you earlier than 11pm, you're just a booty call and should move on if you're not OK with that.
2007-03-23 08:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is why you need to know these things BEFORE you have sex with someone
2007-03-23 08:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋