My significant other has aspergers... some weeks are better than others but.. well we live together, run a business together and well we do everything together, i can't seem to ever get away from him. (mostly because if i say i want to go out alone, he thinks im going to be with someone else)so i just gave up.... hes making me an emotional reck. ... i don't know if i love him anymore.. but i want to be there for him ... but i can't tell if what he's doing to me is a game or if it is this "aspergers syndrome"?? can someone help me! i beg of you...
2007-03-23 08:07:40 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go to http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/books_firstperson.html and buy the book entitled
'Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships',
'An Asperger Marriage'
or
'The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome: A Guide to an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who has Asperger Syndrome'.
The last one I personally recommend since I own a copy. These books have been written specifically for people with and those ina relationahip with someone with aspergers syndrome and have much better information than anything that you could find here. Also note that the rest of the site is full of usefull information about Aspergers Syndrome.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-26 19:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an asperger male, I can say he is always under alot of stress he is not accountable for. He feels save with you and is afraid of losing you, but through his behavior you want to hide from him. A Asperger man can be very reliable partner if he doesn't have some bent interest. My dad is also asperger and became a successfull businessman worth more than 30 million euro. However lost most of the money again.
He needs your understanding . Read about asperger and talk to somebody in the mental health circuit that is familiar with asperger. He has difficulty with people that expect too much from him.
2007-03-23 10:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by hamster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have Asperger's syndrome and it sounds to me like what he's experiencing has nothing to do with AS. Sounds like just a typical case of jealousy. I know plenty of people who have no mental disorders that have acted that way.
If he has AS though, he probably doesn't have a lot of friends other than you, so that may be compounding the issue.
I'd suggest some couples counseling for the two of you to see if there's some way you can deal with this.
2007-03-23 10:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by mnemosyne0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person with Asperger's myself, I can tell you that the way he is acting is typical of someone with AS.
I think that he may be worried about losing you; don't give up on him yet. If he is how I think he is, he doesn't know how to reach out to you. Showing neurotypical people our "inner selves", our "emotional souls" is the most difficult thing for an aspie. Also, he doesn't know if this is a socially acceptable way to do it; this could be putting a strain on the relationship as well.
Please don't give up; if necessary, take a few days off, but do explain to him why you are leaving.
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~Annie~
2007-03-23 09:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by femaledrillsergeant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with someone with Asperger's is tough...my husband has it. I can tell you that getting them to adapt and change is extremely difficult. They are also extremely nervous about people and situations they don't know..hence why he may not like the idea of you going out alone. My suggestion is to get into couples therapy now. he may refuse...go alone. Take the time to figure out what is going on and if this is a man you love enough to wait for changes that in some instances. may take years to achieve.
2007-03-23 08:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋