Is it proper to carry flowers into the funeral home or should they be delivered?

Question

Is there a proper etiquette? I'm talking about the visitation, not really the actual funeral.

Answer 1

Normally, you would have them delivered. However, at almost every funeral the funeral director is at the door greeting people. Just give them to the funeral director and tell them which family they are for, cause sometimes more then one viewing is going on at a time.

Answer 2

If the family would rather not have flowers, it is proper to do neither. Check with the family. They sometimes don't like the flowers because it creates a mess and they would rather have the funds put to some other use. But if they don't mind, then have them delivered. Bring some kind of a dish instead. During a grieving period, people usually don't have the strength to cook much less the desire to eat, but they need to build up their energy. It is a more thoughtful thing to do.

Answer 3

Actually, what's usually done is that you call the florist and order what you want, ususally cut flowers. they'll ask you what you want to spend, and you give them the name and address of the funeral home. Then they deliver them, and the funeral director will arrange them with the other floral tributes. I've never seen anyone bring flowers to the funeral home themselves. That would be rather awkward.

Answer 4

I have seen wealthy people that can afford to send flowers carry them in. Its not that big of a deal on how it gets there. Its the though of that its there. You could take it early in the day to the funeral home when there are not a lot of people and give it to the office and then they could place as well. A potted plant lasts alot longer than flowers. Or u can get a plant and flower mixture.

Answer 5

You should take them before the funeral/visitation. You don't have to pay to have them delivered--if it's in town, you'd do much better to go to a florist and pick out an arrangement yourself (or choose one for them to make you) and take it by yourself.

If you just order...something, like FTD, you don't have much choice as to, say, what's in a dish garden or spray.

But don't walk into the gathering with them. I think that would be tacky. Go beforehand, give them to the funeral director (fill out the card from the florist), and then they'll be able to put them somewhere before everybody gets there. That way, it'll look more professional and organized.

Answer 6

Hi
its fine for you to hand deliver them before the funeral or if you wish leave them in the car and pop them onto the grave after the service. then its nice and pesonal. its up to you - don't worry about whats right or wrong -
although the florist will deliver them fresh on the morning of the funeral and you will therefore not be worrying about being in the way. or bumping into very close family members who are greiving - although i presume you are not only due to the fact that you have asked the question. sorry if i am wrong.

hth
xx

Answer 7

I think that they should be brought prior to the viewing. It doesn't matter who delivers them. However, if you are bringing them while the viewing is going on that may seem abrupt. I like to send a plant to the grieving families home; because it costs the family to have those flowers disposed of. A plant holds more memory and it can be kept. I think it is sensless to spend that money when the majority of the flowers are tossed. More, and more people are choosing in lieu of flowers to donate to the deceased favorite charity or a cause that relates. Makes more sense to me.

Answer 8

Delivered.

Answer 9

Well I think it depends if its your family...If its a friend then you should have them delivered..I took flowers to my son for the viewing and the funeral and put them on top of his casket..

Take Care~

Answer 10

A wonderful manager of a store told me that there was no one there to make them up. I asked her if it was tacky to bring them. She told me to make up what you want and bring them to the back door of the funeral home marked flowers and don't forget to write a card. You can drive around to the back of the funeral home.