I have recently developed a lot of issues in my life that I'm not sure how to handle, and I'm totallt stressin' out! I'm young and still in school. My grades used to be really good, but now they're slowly dropping, and I feel like I need an outlet. Also, I have romantic problems. I have an ex-boyfriend that still likes me, and he keeps trying to get me back, but i dont like him. And, I like these other guys that don't like me, and there's one guy that has caused me major stress. At times I don't think anyone even cares if I would...die. Can you give me some advice?
2007-03-23 07:58:02 · 16 answers · asked by Rotty lover 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I am not sure how I can help from here, but I will try. So first off, I have to say, don't hurt yourself - it's not worth it. I did it for 16 years - what a waste - won't even wear short sleeves now - no matter how hot it gets : (.
Now, you've listed a few of your problems - that's a good start <"You can't change what you don't acknowledge," - Dr. Phil>. List any more problems that you have and then rate each one in their matter of importance to you or how they affect you. Then one at a time you need to go through them and brainstorm solutions. Then create your plan, set small goals, and DO whatever it takes to feel better and reach your goal. Your confidence will build and you will be happier reaching your goals. Reward yourself for every goal, no matter how small.
You can find a way of analyzing your thoughts/feelings with my answer here:
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A good online resource I would recommend is sparkpeople.com - join this group and get motivated!!
The other suggestion I would give is to read Dr. Phil's book Self Matters and totally commit yourself to it.
Good luck and take care of yourself!!
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2007-03-23 08:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by jennainhiding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has problems and let me tell you, dying is NOT the answer. And YES YES YES people would care if you died. Think about your parents, your friends, etc. You have no idea how many lives it would affect. For example, when I was in sixth grade, a girl I didn't even know died. I miss her and wish I could have met her. Don't make other people feel that way. About your grades, see if you can see your teachers before & after school or whenever possible. Get together with friends and review material from class, etc. Do what you can to remember things you've learned in class and really apply yourself. You also need to tell your ex to BACK OFF once and for all. If he doesn't know, he'll never leave you alone. If worse comes to worse, get an adult involved. You are always going to like guys that dont like you, every girl does. Talk to the guy that is causing you stress. Again, you might have to get an adult involved. Once everything is straightened out, your grades will probably improve and you'll feel better. There is always a solution, and giving up is not one of them.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 08:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by shortie77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your question and it scares me to think you have no one to talk to in your life and your on the computer. Can you talk to your mom, your dad, a sibling? If not you need to talk to a professional, a councelor in your school maybe. About the guys. Leave them alone for now, don't let a guy cause you stress like this, your so young and there will be so many guys believe me. You weren't very specific about the issues in your life. Are there family issues? This is so hard. I don't know you but I know I don't want you to hurt yourself, your too precious, we all are precious in our own way honey, and you have a lot of life to live, although things may seem awful now, everything changes all the time. Life is constantly changing. So what seems like the end of the world to you today could very easily change tomorrow. And sometimes we have to make the changes ourselves, like get away from the people who are causing you stress, start concentrating in school again, it's so important and you'll feel better about yourself. You have to take control of your life back. I hope I helped some. Take care of yourself first.
2007-03-23 08:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
Sounds like me! But seriously, stay strong in what you do! There are people who love you regardless of how you feel about yourself! The only thing that gets me through the day are my 4 month old pitwielers (also have a rotty :)) If I didn't have them to care for and love then I wouldn't have anything. Go get a pet! It didn't answer my problems, I'm still depressed and what not but I would never do anything to jeopardize there well-being! Anyway, I know it's not much but if ya ever need anything, I'm here! I'll talk to you, write you, do whatever to help anyone get out of those stupid funks that we all go through!
Hope this helps!
Have a wonderful day!
~Andrea
2007-03-23 08:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by babyface78850503 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a minute out. Life is very precious. If you can't or if you just don't know how to talk to your parents, seek counciling at school. A relationship at a young age should only be friendships, if not you may later have regrets. Try to enjoy your school days. Find an interest in a hobby, help your parents at home. Don't be selfish, your family loves you, but may not notice, because they stay busy. God loves everyone, (a very comforting thought.)
2007-03-23 08:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by Extralite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to know is there is always someone there for you and SOMEONE will always miss you when your gone no matter what decsions you make in your life. Ive never heard of a funeral that knowbody attended. Also, it took me 3 years just to catch the attention of a boy and another 2 years to get him to ask me out. If you have patience with this one boy, im sure things will work out. But dont try to change what or who you are just to get his attention. Concerning the ex boyfriend, sometimes people just need to get mean in order for people to leave them alone. Some people just dont get the point. You could always try the classic silent treatment. Nobody likes to be ignored. I have been through times in my life where it seems everyone in the whole world, including my teachers, are out to get me. You must learn to be patient during these hard times. Im only 18 and i have already experienced many of these. Ive built my patience and gotten through alright. Please consider other options when it comes to your flight to heaven:) Lots of Love ----VB
2007-03-23 08:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by afireinside2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is great find someone that you can trust like a friend or a family member. Also if you feel like you absolutley cant talk about something with another person, then write down what you are feeling on paper. Journaling is highly theraputic. I have delt with depression for so many years that i am just now starting to get myself back on track. If you need to talk you can email me at pippinsgirl6@yahoo.com
2007-03-23 09:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Laura B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we wonder if anyone cares. Sometimes we want to hurt outselfs to see if we still feel anything at all.
Having these feelings is not uncommon. It's acting on them that is a problem.
What would hurting yourself actually do? Would you really feel better if you made yourself feel worse? I wouldn't expect it to.
Let's be honest. What really is the problem here? Feeling neglected? That's pretty common when you're between relationships. But that doesn't mean your family and friends don't care. Go ahead and ask them.
2007-03-23 08:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel out there. I had problems just like you so I cut myself for a while because I thought it was gonna help me get over my problems and pain but it wasen't the way out.
My boyfriend is kinda the same way like you too and sometimes I have to explain to him over and over that killing yourself is not the right way to fix things: the worst thing you could do is run from your problems and to even think about killing yourself is beound crazy. I have faith in you and I know you and hang on. It'll pay off somtime soon. Trust me.
2007-03-23 08:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Tasha Bieber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your parents they love you and will always listen.If you feel you can't talk to them find a trusted teacher or someone.Hurting yourself is NEVER the answer.The ones you leave behind will suffer not you if you kill yourself and are gone.
As far as your guy problem you are young and will have lots of time to find your man.We are all assigned a Hubby when God makes us just be patient and wait.You are beuatiful to someone out there dont hurt yourself he will find you.
2007-03-23 08:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by toomuchpain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋