well! my dad is always jealous, especially when it comes 2 my mom!!!! like when we go out 2 eat and there is a guy around, he just gets quiet, and when we leave the resteuraunt he asks my mom what she was doing looking at a guy that we dont even know! and when he was working in Minnisota ( hes a welder) he accused my mom of getting laid by a bunch of guys, he left as message! so when we went to Minnisota, he was all happy to see us! and when we traveled back home my mom found out that she was pregnant, so she told my dad and he said that she was not pregnant 4 him, and that really got me MAD!!!!well, my mom had her baby, and now he is all happy showering it with clothes and stuff a baby needs......then a week later he takes off just leaving my mom with 1,000 dollars, and he tells her not to come by the next payday asking for money!!!!! what shall i do! because he is just going to come back and leave agian! the last time my mom was in a relationship like this i started cutting!!!!!
2007-03-23 07:51:11 · 18 answers · asked by iluv_rock_n_roll2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Help your mother cut ties with this man. He is toxic and she deserves someone who respects her.
Also, help her file the necessary forms to collect child support from him.
And lots of hugs for both of you.
2007-03-23 07:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the first thing you need to understand is that you can't make choices for your mom, only she can say enough is enough a leaves your dad (the Jerk ). But what you can do is tell your mom if you can how all of this is effecting you and show her the cutting! If that is not an option then go to an adult that you can trust and ask them for help. You can decide if you don't want to live like this. And the is aways some kind of mental help line in every states. These people can help you . You don't need to hurt your self , with one kind of pain to dull the other kinds. Baby take care of your self. I know what I am talking about, and I have the scars to prove it.
2007-03-23 08:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This problem has an easy solution. Take all that isn't your business and hand it over to God and pray for His will to be done, strength, guidance, and peace just to be a daughter to your parents. Let your parents figure out their business....I don't mean disconnect from loving or respecting them under any circumstances just stay out of the turmoil and bond with your new sibling. Try getting involved with fun things at school and anything you do to help with your baby brother/sister can be put to use in the future not to mention, babies need lots of hugs and happy personalities around.
2007-03-23 08:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see a counselor at school, or a trusted official in your church (if you are religious). Cutting is not healthy, and there are numerous outlets for your grief, that do not involve maiming yourself.
I went through my parents divorce when i was about 8, and it was very difficult!! My father would speak out one side of his face, and call my mother names, then turn around and tell me that I wouldn't be allowed to see her.
First and foremost, you must understand that this is your father's problem, and you shouldn't let it get you down. Try and be there for your mother, but remember that you are still a kid, and not a trained psycologist.
Remember, go talk to someone now, before you let it get any worse!!!
2007-03-23 07:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by pnk517 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concern for your mom and i think that is wonderful, but don't let your moms problems ruin your life im not a judgemental person so im not trying to offend you.Maybe you should sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel and if she accepts it then help her to get out of the relationship and give your mom the support she needs. The support that your mom is looking for in a man can easily be filled by you so just help her out and love her as much as possible and it just might work out in your favor.
2007-03-23 08:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by babyk_150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man sounds like he has the potential to be violent. If he has trust issues with your mum, it maybe because he is the one being unfaithful?!
You and your mum need to be a family with the new baby, you need to support and protect each other. Your mum should maybe try not being with another man for a while, atleast until your family life and emotions are stable.
Why are you cutting yourself? No man or person is worth you ever hurting youself, I know it is hard when you have been hurt so bad and you blame yourself for things that are not even your fault. But you need to be strong and hurting yourself is not the answer. Try talking to you mum, tell her how you feel and that it causes you to hurt yourself...your mum loves you and you love her. Thats the only family that you need!
2007-03-23 08:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by h20bub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is insecure. He also may be accusing your mom of doing things when it's actually HIM doing those things. Mom needs to get a divorce lawyer because Dad probably isn't going to change and he is required by law to provide for you and the baby. Hang in there!
2007-03-23 07:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by richall_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they really need help! I think that your mom likes men that control her and she wants guys to be jealous over her!! I think that you shouldn't get all upset and start cutting yourself I think that you should tell your mom how you feel and let her know that you think that for the better of you all she needs to leave men like that alone!! I use to be in a relationship like that myself, It's not easy to get away from it but it can be done!
2007-03-23 07:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to stand up for you and the baby. She needs to live for you and the baby instead of finding a man for herself. She needs to get rid of him because he obviously doesn't trust her. I am taking it that they are not married. Why doesn't he trust her? Has she done something in her past? Sometimes if a man doesn't trust a woman and accuses her of cheating, he's actually the cheater. Good luck!
2007-03-23 07:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Tori ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First off your Dad sound like a real piece of s hit (sorry) and may have mental health problems of his own.
I would suggest you seek counseling for yourself ASAP! Don't let your messed up parents ruin YOUR life!
2007-03-23 07:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋