Okay, so this is the second time my exboyfriend and myself have got back together. he broke up with me twice because im guessing he liked another girl and wanted to go out with her. he never really did tell me why. but anyways he would always come back to me and tell me how much he cared. i wasnt really planning on going back out with him, but my friends convinced me to give him another try, and i did still like him.
but now, i found out that he likes his one exgirlfriend AGAIN, after they had gone out on/off so many times for almost 3 years, and one of his other friends.
my question is, i want to breakup with him but i dont know how. i still care about him, but he talks about the other 2 girls alot, and hugs them right in front of me and it hurts. but i know i should breakup with him if i cant trust him. im just really nervous and afraid he wont ever want to be friends with me again even though i went back to being his bestfriend after we broke up those 2 times. how should i tell him?
2007-03-23 07:47:44 · 15 answers · asked by Valerie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, this whole week is spring break for us, and hes grounded, so i wont be able to see him, which adds to me wanting to breakup with him. so id have to do it over the phone.
2007-03-23 07:53:00 · update #1
Tell him that things aren't working out and right now you know it would be best if we did not continue to see each other, tell him you still care about him but the relationship has to end. Don't be afraid If he doesn't want to be your friend it's his lost, he sounds very undeserving and disrespectful of you and your friendship anyway.
Your right a relationship is nothing without trust. Good Luck.
2007-03-23 08:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by You Lames! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to tell him how you feel about the situation. And tell him the truth that you are afraid something is going on between him and the other girls and you would rather not get hurt if he truly wants to be with one of them rather than you. If he is a nice guy he will understand but if he isn't then he isn't worth your time...not even being friends.
A word of advice, never be afraid to break up with someone who you don't really trust because you want to be friends. If you can't trust them in a romantic relationship, that doesn't say much for being able to trust them in a friendship type relationship. Trust is trust no matter what.
2007-03-23 07:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Liberal_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if you have already broken up and gotten back together twice, its not going to work.
The reason for this is what you just basically said. You have the same issues that you had before. Its like a never ending vicious circle.
I broke up and got back together with someone before, and I do not recommend it at all. Because of the issues that keep circling continuously, you begin to resent each other more, even almost feels like hate.
If I were you, I would break it off for good. And I would STOP hanging out with him even after the break up. You tried it twice and it doesn't work, so move on. Life is too short to stay in something that is probably hurting you both.
You sound young, I am guessing late teens early twenties. Life is about experience. No one says that you have to be so serious with one person. You should try to go out more and meet new people. I would also try to develop your own interests. It sounds to me as if your life is a little too attached to this guy. I think you should focus on yourself and discover what makes you happy.
Do NOT let your friends convince you to do anything. If your heart is telling you not to go back to him, then don't. The best advice that was given to me was "Follow your Heart". This was coming from my bedazzling gay uncle. And you know what? Ever since he told me that, I followed my gut. I decided not to stay in situations that are not making me happy.
I would let this guy off easily. Just explain that you feel like you guys have really tried very hard to make the relationship work (twice), but you feel that its not working for you. Just tell him that you care, but you feel it would be for the interests of both of you if you just ended it. Just tell him you are there if he ever needs a friend, but that is all its going to be. And you want to end it before it comes real messy and you both resent one another.
Honey, some people do not make good couples, and you have to be ok with that. But sometimes these guys make better friends. Not everyone is designed to be with each other. But do not beat yourself up because this did not work. I think you will be fine, and he will respect you enough that you were the strong one to let him go.
2007-03-23 08:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by katisadiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever want to truly be happy, and in a relationship that could one day go somewhere, you need to break up with him. I would just tell him the truth, how you feel that he hasn't gotten over the other girls. Tell him that you need someone who can be totally committed to you. If he doesn't understand that, and won't be your good friend again, then it's for the better. Any guy who you go out with in the future isn't going to want your ex-boyfriend hanging around all the time. As he many feel the way that you do now!
2007-03-23 07:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all u should tell him how u feel and if that doesn't work. Just ask can u guys just be friends. cause me and my bf has had this on and off relationship for 3 months. but the only reason why we keep breaking up is because of my friends telling him lies. or my friends telling me lies about him. so me and my bf made this pack that we don't listen to each others friends.
i hope this helped
2007-03-23 08:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by terreshia w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling now...but believe me it will get better. You should break up with him as soon as you can. He only steals your emotions and stresses you. It will be hard at first but trust me, you will be much better off without him. Don't let him play with your feelings. He's not the only guy on earth, you'll find a much better one, who will truly care about you and try and make you feel safe and loved so for god's sake don't waste your precious time.
Good luck
2007-03-23 07:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you are a very caring person. Because if it was me I wouldn't care about being his friend. He talks about his exes in front of you and even hugs them...come on...he obviously doesn't have any respect for you. So just be like I don't think this is working out. And if he doesn't want to be your friend than OH WELLL....it;s his lost
2007-03-23 07:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you really need to dump him the other girls must have dumped him thats why he came back ta you not that your not the best you are but he's such a looser let him go it's not hard just say "It's over"with a little atitude.
2007-03-23 08:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that he doesn't deserve either your love, or your friendship. It's just not fair from his side to behave like that. If he was a real friend of yours he would never do that. So quickly break up with him and just erase him from your life.
2007-03-23 08:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by ALONE_GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋