I want to give my stepdaughter a book of tips, advice, etc. from women (and men) who have been happily married for many years. So, If you have some good advice or just a fun little saying please answer and include how long you've been happily married.
2007-03-23 07:41:33 · 24 answers · asked by wolverinesfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you're having an argument, stop and ask yourself, "Am I really listening, or am I just waiting to talk?" If you're waiting to talk, you can't really listen to what the other person is saying, and the fight just goes on.
This one piece of advice completely changed our relationship and we almost never fight anymore. We've been married 3 years but together for over 15.
2007-03-23 08:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Great idea! another idea is to ask family members the same question (at a shower or something)
Always kiss each other and say I Love you each and every day no matter how mad you are.
Think to yourself is this fight really worth it?
Keep life interesting buy lingerie
Go outside and gaze at the stars together
Remember why you fell in love
Draw a bath for her
Maybe you should make a book for him too!
My husband and I live in the middle of no where and we work together all day long! Yes still going strong we have been married for 2 years and what really works is just the little things like when we make dinner
he makes the meat (main part) and I make the sides we do it together every night. and clean up together that way it doesnt feel like you are doing all the work.
Do things you both like to do or find out new things you like to do together. etc. just do not keep with the same routine day in and day out becase with this it becomes boring spice it up.
Oh and the best idea of all
Make sure you are giving 150% at all times not just 50/50 and the same for your husband and you will see that you will have a perfect marriage. Always ask God for help and communicate with him as well as your husband.
2007-03-23 15:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by tasgunter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to share a blanket. My husband and I are both blanket hogs, so we each use our own.
Renting movies is just as fun as going to movies, and more intimate.
Keep each other informed of your plans at least a week in advance. If you have a girls' night out, extra time at work, interest group meeting, etc, give each other enough time to make plans too. That way, neither of you is sitting home alone while the other is out.
Don't be afraid to use professional services. You'd rather take your car to the mechanic than fix it yourself, so why not get a handyman/contractor to do your house repairs? Get a gardener to do your yard. Get a maid to do a deep cleaning of your house once a month. If you have the money but not the skill, you'll be better off letting professionals do the work.
2007-03-23 15:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married over 17 years:
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Don't go to bed angry - talk it out, even if you are up all night.
What couples end up fighting about is never the issue that is really the problem.
Men and women ARE totally different creatures; adjust to those quirks and foibles of each other.
Leaving socks on the floor is not something to get mad at.
Make sure you kiss when you leave one another - from home, or anywhere else, whenever you part. Say I love you, too.
Marriage is hard work, but has the best rewards.
2007-03-24 07:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a lovely idea. She will cherish it I'm sure. So,
I've been married 35 years. I never once thought about divorce.
It was an option neither of us ever considered. If there was a problem we discussed it openly and honestly and quickly before it could build into a mountain. We laugh at ourselves and with each other. We still snuggle and tell each other our secret thoughts. We're never see each other as "old". He has always respected and loved me. He wouldn't ask me to do something he himself would not do. I love him, tell him so, and demonstrate it in every aspect of our life.
It will not be an easy journey but it will be an exciting one.
I hope you will share anything and everything. Sacrifice when it is needed and not...Remember why you chose each other and always remember to keep the romance in your life
God bless
2007-03-23 14:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a great idea!
I got married 3 months ago and the one bit of advice that has stuck with both of us is:
We come home every day a different person to the one that left that morning, make sure you take the time to recognise the changes in your partner.
(* Also to never be a drama queen - it's not worth it, it's not even a category at the goldern globes!)
2007-03-24 05:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How cool are you! Well one of the biggest things my husband and I did was decide to say "I'm Sorry " without actually saying it. We both hate to admit when we are wrong. So if we did something we wish we hadn't, somehow or other we manage to leave the message "love is all you need" somewhere for the other to find or be surprised by. I sent him candy bouquets with that on the card, he sent me flowers. I made notes and put them in his lunch. He used some lipstick and wrote it on a mirror. It looks like there was a big effort made and you can't help but sing the rest of the song and smile!
2007-03-23 22:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Poot's Mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that is a very nice gesture. You should have everyone in your family write something for her like at her bridal shower.
My tip would be: Be silly. Its OK to have some fun and be silly. Dont always act like uptight adults. Have fun. Tell each other Everything. Love each other no matter what. Dont get preoccupied with other things like work. Your husband should always be one of your first priorities. Spend a lot of time with him. SHARE THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES. This really makes me and my husband feel equal and more secure with each other in our marriage. I've been married for 3 years and 9 months.
2007-03-23 15:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
communicate... say what you mean and mean what you say.
Trust each other.. and earn the trust you receive.
Sometimes your spouse will want to be alone, go somewhere without you, etc.. respect that and let them do it.
people say don't go to bed angry. Go to bed angry if you want to.. sometimes and argument is best resolved another day when feelings are not so inflamed. Your argument may just seem silly.
Say you are sorry... and mean it.
Try not to take your in-law's advice personally.
They usually only want the best for you and your spouse. This also applies to your own family.
Just because someone gives you advice does not mean you have to follow it.
Loving someone evolves.. and you must WORK at it to keep it alive sometimes. Other times it will come with ease and naturally.
I have been with my spouse legally for eight years.
We have known each other for over 20.
2007-03-23 14:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some days come easy others you gotta try, dont fall into daily habits, say i love you everytime you can.
i feel the problem with married couples is; people marry to start a family or just because its been their dream. but what we forget about is love for our spouse and take their presence for granted.
communication is key! we are not mind readers nor can we feel what are spouse is thinking.
cut the DRAMA theres no need for it theres enough on tv and at work! if things tick you off dont roll your eyes and tisk because youll only receive it in return.
sometimes it doesnt hurt to give in to your loved ones little quirks
bev and andre married 8 months
2007-03-23 14:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋