im in a relationship with someone who has a girlfriend .. how do i break it off with him.. its a bit hard because we are around each other at work every day .. help me .. ive been trying to leave them permanently for about a year now ..and every time we break up we become enemies keep in mind that we work together and that i want to end this peacefully help!!!
2007-03-23 07:28:31 · 23 answers · asked by pivotalperson111 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why don't you talk with him about his gf? tell him you don't agree being in a relationship with someone who already has somebody.
see what he says...and i don't see why you want to be with a potential 'enemy'. i believe that you are enemies in fact....you are afraid of him, of breaking up with him, of the potential consequences.
i take into account the fact that you work together and breaking up might cause you trouble at your office, but i also consider that you want to be free to choose, to start a real relationship with someone who is not taken.
think about it...is he so selfish not letting you go and behave like a mature person?
and if he's harassing you, talk to your supervisor. you cannot go on like that.
best of luck!
2007-03-23 07:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well deserves u rite any way, what else would he want you for than sex saying that he allready has a girl friend. And if he cared about u that much he wouldnt be with her, but thinking about it he doesnt seem to care much for her either if hes got u.
My advice to u is to stop what your doing and move on just because u work with him doesnt meen u have to sleep with him. Get a life, hes not worth the hassle, cos your only going to end up getting hurt in the meanwhile. Do u really think he's a nice person, obviously not as hes a CHEAT, Would you really want a serious relationship with this *** hole anyway????????
Good luck, Hope you get sorted out and move on, u know its the rite thing to do x
2007-03-27 00:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have help create a mess. Let him know that although you have yet to stay away from him in an intimate way, now you don't feel the peace to continue in this way. You just need to be honest but not confrontational since you are in a work situation. If makes problems for you, although it is not convienent, you might wanna start working some where else.
2007-03-23 07:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre in the same situation as my best friend, shes the other woman and works with the guy. shes tried to break it off so many times and never does because she sees him every day so therefore they are part of your life. if this guy really wanted to be with you he'd leave his girlfriend! if you dont want to be with him you should just say you cant have it on your concience any more..or ask him to choose!!! then the balls in his court and then its up to him if he becomes your enemie! say you dont want to waste any more of your life on a taken man and you want to have someone for yourself! if hes that way inclined there is nothing you can do to stop him seeing you as his worst enemie.. just ignore him he'll get over it, just dont keep running back youre tying the noose round your own neck.. good luck x
2007-03-23 07:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm tough situation. Well, keep in mind that you have learned two valuable lessons with this experience.
1. Never get involved with someone whose in an relationship with someone else (Gee Weezzz). Trust me, if the man is willing to cheat .... HE IS A CHEAT IN EVERY OTHER ASPECTS OF HIS LIFE TOO!
2. Never mess around with someone you work with. When the relationship sours ... so does everything else.
Honestly, the only alternative I can think of is to quit because trust me ... it will only get worst.
Karma can be a pain, so make it easier on yourself.
2007-03-23 07:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id like to say you shouldnt have got involved with a taken guy in the first place but its too late for that. It always is difficult when you work with a person because you still have to see them everyday.
Talk to him out of work and say that you dont want to be the other person anymore and that you dont wanna have to share your guy with someone else. Explain to him that you dont want it to effect your work and you want to still get along.
If he starts being an *** then your gonna have to get another job thats the problem
2007-03-23 07:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Black Magic; 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no peaceful way to end it. It will be messy, there will be tears, there will be yelling. But it is something that has to be done. Eventually his girlfriend will find out he will leave you to try and get back with her and in the end all three of your lives will be ruined to some extent because of it. End it now.
2007-03-23 07:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the other person once, if her girlfriend had found out she would have gone nuts and cast a spell on me, she was a a with apparently. I just broke it off and walked away when I had had enough, and didn't look back.
2007-03-23 07:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Doodle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not judging you and i do sympathise. Must be so annoying. Its him who is in the wrong. Has he ever said he would leave her for you or was the agreement that you would always be the other woman?
I have a friend who is cheating on his wife at the moment nd I actually feel sorry for him not her! lol
2007-03-23 07:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by JustJem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to see that you are trying to move on.
I think the answer may be for you to seek employment elsewhere, so there won't be any more confrontations. It may not be fair...but after all Hon it was YOU who chose to go along with this in the first place.
2007-03-23 07:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋