My brother is dating a gal who has 2 kids. I've seen situations like this before where the couple breaks up and the kids are the real losers because they lose the "family" that they thought they had. So for that reason, I told my brother that I didn't want the kids to call me "aunt" until / unless my brother and his girlfriend got married. He's ok with that.
Recently, a friend's 3 year old daughter has started calling me "auntie." I don't mind this, since there isn't any confusion about whether or not I'm family - it's more of a "this is what I call mommy's friend" thing.
So far so good, except for one thing - all these people know each other, including all the kids.
Now I'm wondering if I've set a double standard. *I* see a difference, but I know it's not clear from a kid's point of view. Should I nix "auntie" all together? I'm just not comfortable with my brother's girlfriend's kids calling me "aunt," but I don't want to be unfair, either.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
2007-03-23 07:21:42 · 7 answers · asked by Church Music Girl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it's very wise of you to see how the kids might not get the subtle differences, and/or be hurt regardless if they understand. You should try to come up with some other nickname for the three year old to call you. We have close friends who our kids call Aunt and Uncle, and I don't know how many times I've had to explain to them that they aren't really related to us! LOL
2007-03-23 07:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 32 nieces and nephews, most of them call me aunt GG because Aunt Angie is a mouth ful for some of them. So... My 3 brothers have their own kids, but their wives also had prior kids and all the kids call me aunt GG... I dont have a problem with it at all. Some of the older ones just call me angie, I dont care either way. If the kids feel comfortable enough calling me aunt GG, then I feel honored that they love me that much to call me aunt GG and respect that its not awkward to call me that. Some call me AUNT ANGEL but It makes no difference to me. They are just kids... they dont know any better. Of coarse I dont mind what they call me. Good luck
2007-03-23 07:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know what the correct solution is. If your friend's daughter and your brother's girlfriend's kids all know each other, they're bound to find out that one of them is getting special privileges by being allowed to call you "auntie". You should get rid of the name altogether. I understand the difference, but it is true that young kids might think it's not fair.
2007-03-23 07:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by victoria 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the kids call you shouldn't determine how close you become with them. They could call you "Joe" and love or hate just as much as they would if they called you "aunt". Its really a matter what you want to be called by these kids.
2007-03-23 07:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you mean but a child may not try to think of another cute name something for a kid that they can call you so they don't feel out of place.and so they can feel like they have there own special name for you to
2007-03-23 07:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by hot choclate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm..... You should just keep doing what you are doing.
Good Luck
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2007-03-23 07:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by tay tay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok
2007-03-23 07:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋